Orthodox traditions: what they do on parental day at the cemetery. Is it possible to go to the cemetery on the birthday of the deceased

One of the popular signs says that a pregnant woman should not go to the cemetery and attend funerals. However, in life there are different situations, and many women do not know how to do the right thing - go to the funeral or still refrain? In the article, we will find out where such a belief came from, and we will figure out how to behave if fate has presented a difficult choice.

It's hard to imagine life Russian man without folk signs and beliefs, even the most modern girls furtively bypass the black cat and worry about spilled salt. In our head, two calmly coexist higher education, faith in God and grandmother's signs. And when it comes to pregnancy, then there is no longer a step to take a step, so as not to hear what you can do and what not. People around you constantly explain how to behave during pregnancy, and your head starts to spin - you understand with your mind that these are all prejudices, but the fear of harming the baby makes you listen to grandmother's advice.

Can pregnant women attend funerals?

AT human mind pregnancy is associated with the beginning of a new life, and the cemetery - with the end. These are two mutually exclusive concepts that should not collide in real life. Life cycle alternates between birth and death, every minute in the world someone dies and is born at the same time, but these events usually do not intersect, hence the belief that a pregnant woman should not visit the abode of death. This is especially true for funerals, because it is difficult for any person to face death, and a pregnant woman does not need negative emotions and stress at all and can even be dangerous. From time immemorial, it was believed that it was dangerous for a pregnant woman to see a dead woman - this Bad sign signifying the coming of death.

All people are different, and they perceive the funeral in their own way: someone treats death philosophically, someone, on the contrary, can hardly endure the presence of the deceased, so you need to look at the situation, it all depends on the temperament and emotionality of the woman. Listen to your inner voice, not a sense of duty. The heavy atmosphere of the funeral is depressing, so it is better for pregnant women to avoid the mourning ceremony, do not pay attention to gossip and gossip, do as you think is right. On the other hand, if a person important to you has died, and you understand that you will regret it if you don’t spend it in last way then it's better to go to the funeral. At the same time, you must understand that the cemetery is not the best place for a pregnant woman, so think about your baby first.

Even priests believe that these are ancient superstitions and that pregnant women, if necessary, can be present at the funeral. There is no “bad energy” there, the main thing is the emotional mood of the pregnant woman. Grandmothers say that the soul of the deceased can “cling” to a child at a funeral, but in the church such signs are called heresy. If you don't want to go to the cemetery, then don't. Throw away the feeling of guilt - you can say goodbye to your loved ones not only at a funeral, go to a wake, put a candle in the church, order a magpie, pray for the deceased.

It is important and useful for a future mother to attend church and pray, because she prays with her unborn child, gives him positive energy and God's Grace - the main thing is when a prayer is read with faith. The church atmosphere gives peace, confidence in the future and tranquility, so the clergy urge women to visit the temple more often and pray (this can be done not only in church, but also at home). Thus, you will protect not only yourself, but also the child.

Funerals are usually stressful. main reason why a pregnant woman should not be present at the funeral. Negative feelings and thoughts are transmitted from mother to child in the same way as positive ones, so during pregnancy it is very important to get more positive emotions and enjoy life, while it is desirable to protect yourself from stress and negativity as much as possible. Try to avoid mourning events and places where negative energy gathers.

Why pregnant women should not go to the cemetery

All-knowing grandmothers scare pregnant women and forbid them to go to the cemetery. Yes, the cemetery is the kingdom of the dead, it is believed that a lot of bad energy, grief and suffering have been accumulated there. Priests say that these are echoes of paganism, relics of the past, which should not be paid attention to. In fact, if the soul asks to visit the grave of a loved one during the commemoration, then it is quite possible to go and commemorate loved ones.

Whether or not to go to the cemetery during pregnancy is a personal matter for every woman. The main thing is how you feel at the same time, and what emotions you experience. If a woman is going to the cemetery with anxiety, fear and anxiety, then it is better to stay at home or go to church instead of the cemetery. When a woman wants to visit the dead, and is sure that nothing in the cemetery will disturb her inner peace, then you can safely go. Many girls write on forums that they feel inner peace and tranquility at the cemetery.

Priests believe that God's Grace and blessing descends on people who do not forget their ancestors and remember their deceased relatives, so the remembrance of the deceased is our duty during life. It is necessary to take care of the graves at any time, even during pregnancy, but do it from a pure heart, and not under duress. If you feel unwell or do not want to go to the cemetery today, then reschedule the trip to another day. Even better, during pregnancy, transfer your duties of caring for the graves to other relatives.

Women often increase during pregnancy arterial pressure, worried about insomnia and high fatigue, and emotional lability affects mood changes. Strong negative emotions can provoke a deterioration in physical condition future mother, cause stress and melancholy, therefore it is undesirable for emotional and suspicious girls to go to the cemetery.

From the point of view of esotericists, a pregnant woman has a unique energy that spreads harmony and peace not only to the expectant mother and baby, but also to those around her. However, the energy field of a woman is very vulnerable, it actively attracts otherworldly entities that draw vital energy. And in the places associated with death, there is a lot of negative energy and entities that are ready to "sit down" in someone else's biofield. This point of view is similar popular superstitions, which also warn of "settlement" and harm by someone else's energy, therefore esotericists are categorically against any visits by pregnant women to a cemetery, and even more so a funeral.

But even pregnant women can go to the wake. If a woman wishes to express condolences to the relatives and friends of the deceased, then you can attend the commemoration. The main thing is your inner attitude and self-awareness, if there is even the slightest doubt, then refuse the event. If you do not want to go, then others should be sympathetic to your desires and feelings.

It's better to stay at home

The woman must similar situation make a decision on your own, no one can advise you on how to do the right thing. If you feel confident in your abilities and have a stable mentality, then you can safely attend the funeral and go to the cemetery. If you understand that the person is dear to you and you can’t miss the funeral because you will regret it, go. However, if there is even the slightest doubt, then it is better to stay at home or go to church and light a candle for the repose.

The same can be said about the physical condition of a pregnant woman - if you often feel unwell, get tired and suffer from mood swings, then you should not tempt fate, stay at home and have a good rest. Doctors remind that strong negative emotions, worries and tears have a bad effect on the well-being of mother and baby. Especially it is necessary to save the nerves on early dates pregnancy, so if you need to go to the cemetery, then communicate less with the mourners and try not to be nervous.

It is believed that a guardian angel is given to each person at baptism, and while the baby is in the womb, her angel protects him. However, there is an opinion that unborn children are very vulnerable and subject to the influence of dark forces, therefore, according to folk omens, pregnant women should not go to the cemetery, and even more so to attend the funeral. If there is an opportunity to avoid a funeral, then use it. Grandmothers say that the deceased and unborn children are in the same dimension, so the deceased can "take away" the child with him. When just an acquaintance has died, then stay at home with a clear conscience - pregnancy is a good reason to avoid a funeral, so no one will judge you.

Signs do not prohibit pregnant women from attending the wake. There you can support the family of the deceased and express condolences. However, try to reduce your contact with relatives who are grieving, because you need to avoid stress and negative emotions. Set yourself up to the fact that there is nothing terrible in death - it is a natural and inevitable process. Strong emotions can lead to the loss of a child, so if you are overreacting to the death of a loved one, stay at home.

Our ancestors believed that future child feels all the sad atmosphere at the funeral and hears the crying of people, feeling their grief. In ancient times, it was believed that if the expectant mother looked at the deceased, then the child could be born dead. In the modern world, there is no such categorical attitude towards visiting cemeteries and funerals by pregnant women, but it is better to avoid this unless absolutely necessary.

Forums are full of discussions of the question of whether it is possible for a pregnant woman to go to the cemetery and to the funeral. Opinions differ greatly and depend mainly on the nature of the woman. Some do not think about this issue at all and do not change their lifestyle at all during pregnancy. If you need to visit a cemetery or go to a funeral, then they calmly perform their duties, not thinking about mysticism and signs. More suspicious girls carefully study the forums and participate in discussions before making a decision and coming to own conclusions. Some future mothers unequivocally listen to the opinion of older relatives and believe that it is better to play it safe and not put the baby at risk.

There are no clear contraindications for pregnant women to visit the cemetery, so you yourself must decide what is more important for you and how to behave in this situation. Visiting the grave of a beloved relative, some experience peace and inner peace, others are nervous and stressed, which can harm the child. Listen to your inner voice, and if he says that you should not go to the funeral, then go to church and order a funeral service.

Exceptional case

If died close person, and you feel like you have to go to the funeral and say goodbye, then follow some rules. Choose the right time when the deceased has not yet been taken out of the house or the coffin has already been buried. At this time, the emotions of the people around are a little calmer, and the mood is more stable. It is still advisable to avoid a trip to the cemetery, it is enough to come to the wake and express condolences to the relatives of the deceased.

Pregnancy has always been a mystery, it was shrouded in superstitions, beliefs and prejudices that appeared many centuries ago and were passed down from generation to generation. One thing is for sure, funerals cause strong emotions, worries and stress, so an impressionable and emotional pregnant woman should not expose her psyche to such strong tests. In addition, a lot of grief and tears are concentrated in the cemetery, which can also affect the energy of the expectant mother, so try to keep trips to the cemetery to a minimum.

If the situation is such that you cannot miss the funeral or you yourself want to say goodbye to the deceased, then go only if you are sure that you can behave calmly and not harm the baby with tears and emotional behavior. Otherwise, refrain from going to the cemetery, it is better to go to church and pray. Only you can decide how to do the right thing in this situation and whether it is worth going to a funeral in your position. If you know that you are too emotional and suspicious, do not risk the well-being of your own child.

Probably, every person has at least one relative or friend who has already been buried. People always pay maximum attention to their loved ones. Even after the death of a person, there is a desire to visit his tomb and take care of his peace. But many do not know how to visit the cemetery correctly. There are days when it is possible, and even necessary, to go to the cemetery. And, on the contrary, when it is better not to visit the dead.

When can you visit the cemetery?

* on the day of the funeral;

*on the 3rd, 9th and 40th day after death;

*every year on the day of the death of a person;

*in memorial days- Monday and Tuesday of the week following Easter;

*Meat-fare Saturday preceding the week of Great Lent;

*2nd, 3rd and 4th Saturdays of Great Lent;

* Trinity Saturday - the day before the feast of the Holy Trinity;

*Dmitrov Saturday is the first Saturday in November.

When not to go to the cemetery:

* Orthodoxy does not welcome visiting the graves of relatives on such Christian holidays as Easter, the Annunciation and Christmas;

*The Trinity is not celebrated at the cemetery either. On Trinity they go to church;

* it is believed that you do not need to go to the churchyard after sunset;

*Women are not advised to visit the place of the dead during pregnancy or menstruation. But this is a personal choice of each of the fair sex.

Some sources report that it would be wrong to go to the tomb on the birthday of the deceased. You can just remember it kind word, in the circle of the family and relatives of the deceased.

There are also some superstitions and rules of behavior on the churchyard.

How to behave in a cemetery:

If you have planned a trip to the cemetery, do not wear clothes bright colors. Black or white would be best. You can also pick up things from your wardrobe in muted tones. Legs must be covered: wear pants or a long skirt. Shoes must also be closed. It is desirable to cover the head with a headdress or throw on a scarf.

When they go to the cemetery, they behave calmly, without unnecessary emotions. Avoid laughing or crying out loud. Do not swear.

Don't spit or litter. And if you want out of need, find a suitable place for this outside the cemetery.

Upon arrival at the grave positive action will light a candle, remember the deceased.

Do not drink or eat near the tombstone. Have a funeral dinner at home.

Do not step on the graves and do not jump over them.

You don’t need to touch other people’s graves, put things in order there, unless the relatives of the person buried there asked you to do so.

In the case when you dropped something on the dead earth, it is better not to pick up this thing. If the fallen item is very important to you, pick it up and put something in return (candy, cookies, flowers).

Leaving the cemetery, do not turn around, and, moreover, do not return.

When you get home, wash your hands thoroughly (and it’s better to do it at the cemetery), be sure to wash off the cemetery soil from your shoes, and wash the tool that was used to clean the grave.

In a situation where you live far from the graves of your relatives or simply do not have the opportunity to visit them, but there is a desire to pay attention and remember, go to church and light a candle for the repose.

You need to know that such candles are not placed on the days of Holy Week and the days of Bright Week.

Also in the temple there is an opportunity to order a memorial service (prayer for the dead) or lithium (intensified prayer) from the priest. You can also pray yourself: read the Psalter or the rite of lithium performed by a layman.

Under any circumstances, remember your dead loved ones, and when you come to their graves, behave appropriately, because a cemetery is a sacred land, a resting place for the dead.

WHEN A CLOSE RELATIVE DIED. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO A WHOLE YEAR.

In the first seven days after the death of a person, do not take out of the houseno things.

On the 9th day after death, relatives go to the temple, order a memorial service, and lay a second memorial table at home.The family of the deceased did not sit at the first memorial table.

Now, on the contrary: a family and nine more people sat down at the table (three who washed the deceased, three who made a coffin, three who dug a hole).

AT modern conditions the number of invitees may vary, because there are various government services that provide the necessary funeral services: the deceased is dressed in the mortuary, the coffin can be bought at a ritual supplies store, the grave can also be prepared in advance. Therefore, there may be 3 - 6 - 9 invitees, or there may be no one.

On the 40th day after the death of a person, they arrange a third memorial table - “sarakavitsy”, at which the family of the deceased, relatives, relatives, friends, and work colleagues are present. The church orders Sorokoust - forty liturgies.

From the day of the funeral until the 40th day, remembering the name of the deceased, we must pronounce the verbal formula-amulet for ourselves and all the living. At the same time, the same words are a symbolic wish for the deceased: "Earth rest in peace", thereby expressing wishes that his soul would be in paradise.

After the 40th day and over the next three years we will say a different formula-wish: "The kingdom of heaven to him." Thus we wish the deceased afterlife in Paradise. These words should be addressed to any deceased, regardless of the circumstances of his life and death. At the same time, they are guided by the biblical commandment "Judge not, lest you be judged."

During the year following the death of a person, none of the family members has the moral right to take part in any festive celebration.

None of the members of the family of the deceased (including the second degree of relationship) could marry or marry during the period of mourning,

If a relative of the 1st or 2nd degree of kinship has died in the family and a year has not yet passed after his death, then such a family does not have the right to paint eggs red for Easter (they must be white or any other color - blue, black, green) and, accordingly, take part in the celebrations of Easter night.

After the death of the husband, the wife is forbidden for a year to wash anything on the day of the week on which the trouble happened.

For a year after death, everything in the house where the deceased lived remains in a state of rest or permanence: repairs cannot be made, furniture rearranged, nothing is given away or sold from the things of the deceased until the soul of the deceased reaches eternal rest.

During this year and all subsequent years, you can go to the cemetery only on Saturdays (except for 9, 40 days after death and church holidays of honoring ancestors, such as Radunitsa or Autumn Grandfathers). These are the days of commemoration of the dead recognized by the church. Try to convince your relatives that you should not constantly come to the grave to the deceased, thereby harming their health.

Whichever way you come to the cemetery, come back the same way.

Visit the cemetery before 12 noon.

Days of special commemoration of the departed throughout the year:

Meatless Saturday- Saturday in the ninth week before Easter;

- Saturday in the second week of Great Lent;

universal parent saturday - Saturday in the third week of Great Lent;

Universal Parent Saturday- Saturday in the fourth week of Great Lent;

Radunitsa- Tuesday in the second week after Easter;

Trinity Saturday- Saturday in the seventh week after Easter;

Dmitrievskaya Saturday - Saturday in the third week after the Intercession (14.10).

Exactly one year later after death, the family of the deceased celebrates a memorial meal (“please”) - the 4th, final memorial family and birth table. It must be remembered that the living cannot be congratulated on their birthday in advance, and the final memorial table should be arranged either exactly one year later, or 1-3 days earlier.

On this day, you need to go to the temple and order a memorial service for the deceased, go to the cemetery - visit the grave.

As soon as the last memorial meal is over, the family is again included in the traditional scheme of festive regulations of the folk calendar, becomes a full member of the community, has the right to take part in any tribal celebrations, including weddings.

A monument on the grave can be erected only after a year after the death of a person. And it is necessary to remember Golden Rule folk culture: "Do not chapay the land pasture Pakravou da Radaunshchy." This means that if the year of the deceased fell at the end of October, i.e. after the Intercession (and for the entire subsequent period up to Radunitsa), then the monument can only be erected in the spring, after Radunitsa.

After the installation of the monument, the cross (usually wooden) is placed next to the grave for another year, and then thrown away. It can also be buried under a flower garden or under a gravestone.

get married (get married) after the death of one of the spouses,in a year. If a woman married a second time, then the new husband became the full owner-owner only after seven years.

If the spouses were married, then after the death of the husband, his wife took his ring, and if she no longer remarried, then both wedding rings were placed in her coffin.

If the husband buried his wife, then her wedding ring remained with him, and after his death, both rings were placed in his coffin, so that, having met in the Kingdom of Heaven, they would say: “I brought our rings, with which the Lord God crowned us.

For three years celebrate the birthday of the deceased and the day of his death. After this period, only the day of death and all annual church holidays commemoration of ancestors.

Not all of us know how to pray, much less know prayers for the dead. Learn a few prayers that may help you find peace in your soul after an irreparable loss.

When can you visit the cemetery?

on the day of the funeral;
on the 3rd, 9th and 40th day after death;
every year on the day of the death of a person;
on memorial days - Monday and Tuesday of the week that follows Paschal;
Meatless Saturday preceding the week of Great Lent;
2nd, 3rd and 4th Saturdays of Great Lent;
Trinity Saturday - the day before the feast of the Holy Trinity;
Dmitrov Saturday is the first Saturday in November.

When not to go to the cemetery:

Orthodoxy does not welcome visiting the graves of relatives on such Christian holidays as Easter, the Annunciation and Christmas;
Trinity is not celebrated in the cemetery either. On Trinity they go to church;
it is believed that you do not need to go to the churchyard after sunset;
women are not advised to visit the place of the dead during pregnancy or menstruation. But this is a personal choice of each of the fair sex.

Some sources report that it would be wrong to go to the tomb on the birthday of the deceased. You can just remember him with a kind word. But there is another opinion that such memorable dates as the birthday or the day of the Angel also serve as an occasion to commemorate the deceased. These days, you can also invite a priest to the grave. There are also some superstitions and rules of behavior on the churchyard.

How to behave in a cemetery

If you have planned a trip to the cemetery, do not wear bright colors. Black or white would be best. You can also pick up things from your wardrobe in muted tones. Legs must be covered: wear pants or a long skirt. Shoes must also be closed. It is desirable to cover the head with a headdress or throw on a scarf.

When they go to the cemetery, they behave calmly, without unnecessary emotions. Avoid laughing or crying out loud. Do not swear.
Don't spit or litter. And if you want out of need, find a suitable place for this outside the cemetery.
Upon arrival at the grave, a positive action will be to light a candle, to remember the deceased.

Do not drink or eat near the tombstone. Have a funeral dinner at home.
Do not step on the graves and do not jump over them.
You don’t need to touch other people’s graves, put things in order there, unless the relatives of the person buried there asked you to do so.

In the case when you dropped something on the dead earth, it is better not to pick up this thing. If the fallen item is very important to you, pick it up and put something in return (candy, cookies, flowers).
Leaving the cemetery, do not turn around, and, moreover, do not return.

When you get home, wash your hands thoroughly (and it’s better to do it at the cemetery), be sure to wash off the cemetery soil from your shoes, and wash the tool that was used to clean the grave.

When to visit the cemetery, each person determines for himself. Of course, going to such places almost every day is not recommended. But don't forget about your loved ones either. Do as your heart tells you. In a situation where you live far from the graves of your relatives or simply do not have the opportunity to visit them, but there is a desire to pay attention and remember, go to church and light a candle for the repose. You need to put this candle in the middle part of the temple on the left side.

You need to know that such candles are not placed on the days of Holy Week and the days of Bright Week. Also in the temple there is an opportunity to order a memorial service (prayer for the dead) or lithium (intensified prayer) from the priest. You can also pray yourself: read the Psalter or the rite of lithium performed by a layman.

Under any circumstances, remember your dead loved ones, and when you come to their graves, behave appropriately, because the cemetery is a sacred land, a resting place for the dead.

FROM special condition pregnancy is associated with many signs and superstitions. A woman who is expecting a child, "knowing" older relatives and completely alien elderly women are regularly warned against committing various activities that could harm the fetus.

The reasons for many restrictions are understandable, although sometimes they have no basis: others are trying to protect the future mother and her child as much as possible. Among the prohibitions is the visit of the future mother to the cemetery. Is it possible for pregnant women to go to the cemetery or is it just a superstition? Let's figure it out.

Can pregnant women go to the cemetery
Signs
The opinion of the Orthodox Church
Is it possible to visit a Muslim cemetery during pregnancy

Is it possible for a pregnant woman to go to the cemetery

The cemetery is a vale of sorrow, where there is no place for fun and positive emotions. You don’t really want to go to the cemetery: there a person often has sad thoughts about the frailty of everything earthly. Life is short, but in the crazy rhythm of days flashing by one after another, we often do not think about it. On the graveyards there is an atmosphere that involuntarily makes you think about the meaning of our existence. Of course, thoughts about his own end also come to mind, especially when a person remembers relatives whose graves he came to visit. Doctors do not recommend pregnant women to surrender to the power of negative emotions.

Is it possible for pregnant women to go to the cemetery, future mothers decide for themselves. Here everything is individual. Those who know how to deal with sadness and set themselves up for positive tone, can come to visit the grave of relatives and loved ones. But if future mother understands that the burden of experiences will be too heavy for her, she must refuse to visit the sad burial place of the dead.

Can pregnant women go to the cemetery: signs

Some pregnant women are internally ready to visit the graves of their relatives, as they know how to set themselves up accordingly:

believe in the possibility of an afterlife;
philosophically relate to the awareness of the short duration of a person's stay on Earth.

But this is where superstition comes into play.

"Wise" grandmothers advise to postpone the time of paying a visit to the ashes of loved ones, motivating it like this. A child in the womb does not yet have its own guardian angel. Therefore, he is defenseless against the forces of evil and darkness, for which the cemetery is a favorite habitat. Evil spirits can harm him.

The second similar superstition: the child is not yet born, which means that he does not yet have a soul. There are always souls on the churchyard that have recently left the bodies of their "masters": they are not yet "distributed" to new "homes" (that is, they do not know who will be sent to heaven, who is destined to suffer in hell), so they are looking for a new body in which could move in and live another life on Earth. Such a body may be a child in the womb of the mother.

A pregnant woman who decides to go to the cemetery on her parents' day or must attend the funeral will certainly be informed and accepted: if she looks at the deceased or at the place of his "eternal rest", the child will be born weak and pale.

There is no common sense in sign either, as in previous beliefs.

However, a small grain of truth here can be separated from the chaff: all these prohibitions and signs are due to the desire of loved ones to protect a pregnant woman from sorrowful experiences. Negative emotions can have a truly detrimental effect on the expectant mother, in some cases even provoke a miscarriage.

So people come up with various "horror stories", trying with their help to protect the expectant mother from losing a child.

Orthodoxy: is it possible for pregnant women to go to the cemetery

If there is an opportunity not to go to the funeral, it is better to use it. When a woman is next to her beloved deceased and surrounded by grieving loved ones, she will not be able to resist tears and grief.

It can be a consolation to realize that mentally you can always stay close to your loved one who has left this world. The main thing is not to go to the funeral and the cemetery (these are conventions), but to keep the memory in the depths of the soul.

Is it possible for a pregnant woman to go to the cemetery - how does she answer this question Orthodox Church? Most likely, the answer of the priest will be as follows.

Neither on the memorial day, nor on other sad holidays, is it forbidden for the expectant mother to go to the cemetery. She can go to the grave to her loved ones without hindrance, if there are no indications for limiting physical activity.

Moreover, the more often we remember the dead, the easier it will be for them in the other world. Therefore, there are no restrictions on visiting.

The opinion of the church is unequivocal in relation to such great festivities as the rainbow and Easter. You can safely go to the graves of relatives on Easter - this is not prohibited, but even welcomed.

Only in this case, the expectant mother, in addition to the answer of the priest, should listen to the opinion of the doctor, who is likely to express his disagreement: on church holidays there are a lot of people in the cemetery, which contributes to the spread of infections. weakened, so it is better for her to clean the graves of her relatives in another, more quiet time so as not to catch any virus.

How do Muslims feel about the placement of pregnant women in cemeteries?

Muslims in relation to future mothers visiting the graves of loved ones rely on the opinion of the Koran and other sacred books. In the Muslim cemetery, as, indeed, everywhere in the Muslim world, you can often meet men than women.

As adherents of this religion explain, previously there was a ban on visiting cemeteries not only for pregnant women, but for all women in general. The explanation is very characteristic of Islam: women who are there without their men can dress in looser clothes, chat on extraneous topics, and even - although this is almost impossible to imagine in the atmosphere of a churchyard! - to flirt with strangers.

Later, the Prophet Muhammad made the Muslims indulgent: women were granted the right to visit the graves, but only of relatives and those people who are famous in the Muslim world: the prophets, their followers.

It is advisable for the husband of the pregnant woman to accompany her, not leaving only older relatives in charge.

During pregnancy, the same restrictions apply for Muslim women as for all other women.

So, there are no scientifically based prohibitions regarding visiting a cemetery during pregnancy. Major world religions also allow believers to freely visit the graves of loved ones. Prohibitions are due only to superstitions. Each future mother decides for herself whether she has the strength to visit the graves of the dear dead. She needs to listen only to the opinion of the doctor and to her inner feelings.

After the funeral of a person, relatives try to visit the grave of the deceased as often as possible. Some do it on the ninth and fortieth day, and someone - almost daily. Is there a need for this? How often go to the cemetery?

How often can you go to the cemetery

It is unlikely that anyone will doubt that it is necessary to visit the graves of deceased relatives. This is not only a tribute to the memory of the deceased. Cemetery visit helps to cope with the loss of a loved one, get used to the idea that he is no more, and sometimes - to survive the pain of a terrible loss.

Some people think that the more go to the grave to the deceased before the 40th day from the date of death, the easier the soul adapts to the afterlife. This is not true at all. Visiting the grave is unlikely to help the soul of a deceased person and find peace in afterlife. In fact best help the soul of the deceased is prayer. Believers should earnestly pray for the repose of the soul.

How often do they go to the cemetery according to Orthodox canons

It is often not necessary to visit the deceased. According to Orthodox canons, there are certain days for this. You should not go to the cemetery every day, it is better to go to the church once again, light a candle and pray for the repose of the soul of the deceased. The Orthodox faith obliges to visit the deceased at the cemetery on the third (this is usually the day of the funeral), on the ninth and fortieth day after death. If for some reason it is impossible to visit the grave, you can go to the nearest temple and light a candle for the repose of the soul.

You can visit the grave of the deceased one year after death. There are several more days in the year that the church dedicates to the remembrance of the departed. This is coming on the ninth day after the feast of the Holy Resurrection of Christ (Easter), parental week (after Easter).

These days, relatives and friends carry fresh flowers to the grave, Easter cakes and colored eggs, congratulating the deceased on the most important Orthodox holiday share their joy on the occasion of the resurrection of Christ.

If relatives wish to commemorate the deceased on other days, this is not forbidden. Rather, on the contrary, each prayer read to the deceased will contribute to the easy transition of the soul to the afterlife.

Why You Shouldn't Go to the Cemetery Often

Grieving for another relative or friend who has gone into the world, you should not go to the cemetery every day. It is not by chance that such rules were formed in Orthodoxy. It should be understood that these visits will not make it easier for anyone. The deceased needs a prayer for his soul, and the mourners need to create a situation of psychological balance that will not allow them to fall into a protracted depression. A visit to a cemetery is always a difficult moral atmosphere for the relatives and friends of the deceased.

deal with anxiety Not everyone can do it on their own. Calm down and understand that a dead person will always be there, because his soul is immortal.