Programming for self-confidence. Igor Ponomarev - Matrix method of thinking. Principles and techniques of mental work

1. Completely eliminate alcohol, stop smoking, stop eating meat. You need to forbid yourself to go to fast food - never go to any such establishments. Absolute taboo. You need to feed yourself on your own, excluding significantly carbohydrate-containing foods. The biggest source of carbohydrates is sugar, you should eliminate it completely, the body will not feel the loss. Also forget about the existence chewing gum and give up toothpaste. The fluorine contained in it is detrimental to the pineal gland.

3. Talk to the carcass. The body is truly a holy vessel, given by the Lord. The body has a voice and a consciousness, the body knows its needs better than the mind. The body is complete and self-sufficient, it requires respect for itself. The desire to eat low vibration food suggests that the cellular structure of the body does not look right. You need to establish a connection with the elements of the body. All of them should become friends and helpers in the processes of cleansing the body. It depends on the elements how much it will be purified, restored, transformed to the state of truth. Talk to water while interacting with it. Water can be called upon to purify the lower bodies. Water wants to hear gratitude. No need to let your hair down and walk around like that. Hair is an antenna, and collects all the information, most of which is unnecessary and even harmful. Hair can be loose when communicating with the Highest, in the process of meditation.

4. Do gymnastic exercises every day. The complex can include light and calm exercises for practicing to the music of meditation. It is worth training with the use of aroma lamps and oils. All this will help open the chakras. Gymnastics, perhaps, will move into the stage of in-depth meditation.

5. Walk for about three hours in a quiet place where there is no matrix. Turn off vain thoughts, communicate with nature, think about breathing, focus on the correctness of inhalations and exhalations. Exclude yourself from the unnecessary tinsel of the shopping center, stadiums, concert venues, beer, pretentious places. Unnecessary, empty communication will again drag you into the matrix.

6. Analyze your own wardrobe. In operation, leave only practical things. They should be comfortable, free, made of natural materials. No pretentiousness. Leave the number of things in accordance with the possibility of demolishing them. No more. Jewelry to wear in limited quantities, the more jewelry the body wears, the more channels are blocked free energy, the fewer outputs for free current.

7. Remove from your dwelling the microwave oven, TV, all unused in this moment do not keep appliances plugged in. There should not be a lot of wires, try not to create balls of them in the apartment. Mobile phone use only when absolutely necessary. With a computer, doing this, of course, is difficult for many. But, you can significantly limit the time you spend on the Internet by refusing to social networks, forums, online stores and other nonsense. The order in the house needs perfect - you need to throw out everything that you don’t have time or don’t want to use for more than two or three months. You need to throw out all the rubbish ruthlessly, without hesitation and doubting. Anything broken should be replaced or repaired. Leaking taps should not be allowed in the house, for example. Everything around should feel your love, so love.

8. Forgive everyone, ask for forgiveness from everyone - both those around you and uninvited guests in your own mind.

9. Communicate a lot with plants, animals and young children.

10. It is possible to reduce the time to work after some time, as the costs will be reduced after getting rid of the distortions.

11. Don't worry about age, you can just place the body at the point on the sphere where it felt the best. Then you need to fix this state and report it to the body.

12. Forget about anxiety as such. Being in eternity, did not cease to think about trifles.

13. Dive into creativity. It can be drawing, singing, dancing, literature, but not collecting, because life is a verb. Best activity- Art in the sand.

14. Smile constantly and to everyone you can meet.

Alexander Vakurov

Personal Epistemology: What makes us know that what we know is really what it is? How do we know what is really going on around or inside us? Why are we so sure that everything we feel, see, hear is true? Reality - is it one, or are there many? How do we know if what another person is doing is exactly what we take his actions for, or is it something else? Should we be so sure that we correctly perceive the world around us?
This article is several years old. And it will be edited constantly, as new observations and insights come in.
Remember the movie "The Matrix"?

A film about how people live, breathe, strive, hate, love. And then it turns out that what is actually happening is not at all what they think.
In fact, there is another world in which completely different events take place, of which these people are completely unaware.
What they take to be reality - actually created for them by machines virtual reality(“virtuality”).

When I saw this film for the first time, I experienced a feeling of recognition: “This is it! I've known this for a long time! I have felt it for a long time! Everything is just like in our life!”

Indeed, observing myself and other people, I always saw something similar, but I could not express it in any way in a specific idea or words.

When I started studying psychotherapy, I was amazed at what really happens between people.

I'm amazed that people don't know what they're doing. People don't see what's really going on.
Everyone lives in his own illusory world, interacting with invented people who seem to him.
He does not know until the end who is next to him, what he really wants.
He doesn't know what he really wants.

Remember, at the Strugatskys, people go to the Zone to get into the Room that grants wishes. With great difficulty, a man sneaks into this room and asks for health for his brother. And in the end he gets a lot of money. He did not want good for his brother, but for himself “good” in fact. People just THINK they want what they want. People only THINK they do what they do. And people just FEEL like others are doing what they are doing. And then they are surprised that their efforts do not lead to the expected results.

People live, experience, react, suffer, do something with each other, completely unaware of what is really happening.

He is angry with her for what she did - and does not suspect that he himself provoked her to this.

She takes offense at him, and does not suspect that she herself did everything to ensure that he behaved that way. These are all matrices.

People walk each in their own matrix, taking everything that happens in it for the real world.

Everyone lives in their own reality, naively assuming that it is their understanding of reality that is the most real. And he wonders how others do not see and do not understand what is visible and understandable to him.

Moreover, I am increasingly visited by the thought that a common person rarely comes into contact with reality. The filters and prisms of his perception create for him a Distorted Reality in which he lives and breathes, taking it for the true reality.

People group with each other according to the similarity of their Realities and, oh, they really don't like those Others whose Reality is far from their Realities. Of course, in order not to be left alone, a person has to ignore that the Reality of people from the inner circle is still different from his Reality. He simply “explains” these differences to himself, for example, by the “wrongness” of these people, “madness”, “stupidity”, “stupidity”, “malice”, “harmfulness”, “vile intentions”, “bad character”, “carelessness” , “bad nature”, etc.

I hope it is clear that our Reality is nothing but a fiction and an illusion that we have qualitatively built for ourselves? The matrix that our parents and those whom we have always believed so much created for us? But let's go further. All this is so, conversations, from which it is neither hot nor cold.

I want to offer you a model, the application of which can help in the MOST DIFFICULT AND IN THE MOST DIFFICULT AND, POSSIBLY EVEN DEFINITE SITUATIONS IN YOUR LIFE.
I'm going to first explain what the Matrix is. Then I'm going to give you the criteria of the Matrix and the signs by which you can identify whether you are in the Matrix or not. Then, you will learn what to do and how to jump out of the Matrix. And how to check whether you jumped out of the matrix or not.

So, you already got the idea. Our subjective Reality is different from the objective Reality (if there is one at all) and from the subjective Realities of other people. But that's not all!

Our subjective reality differs at different moments and periods of our life!
And my subjective reality, when I had a good night's sleep and was full, is significantly different from my own reality, when I was hungry and didn't get enough sleep.

I feel differently, I see the world differently, I listen to people differently, I react to events differently, my head thinks differently, and I can do something completely differently too. In some cases I see and hear what I do not see or hear in others. In some cases, I understand what I do not understand at all in others. In some cases, I perceive the situation as hopeless. In others, I see the way out perfectly. In some cases, I can easily do or say what brings me success. In others - in similar situations - weak and weak. And all this is my so different subjective Reality.

I call subjective reality the Matrix. But not any subjective reality, but only one in which I experience pain and helplessness, resentment or anger - in general, when I am ineffective in some way, when I lose access to internal resources.

And I'm in the matrix, I'm out of it. The same is happening with you. With every person on this planet.

A little later, we will understand that there are three mutually supporting components in the matrix:

distorted perception,
Negative Condition
Beliefs that do not support us.

Until then, let's move on.
Indeed, just remember, haven’t you ever had something happen that causes you pain, disappointment, anger or resentment, but time passes, you are distracted, or over the years you just grow up and what was once terrible, do you remember with a smile or just with warm sadness?

A neighbor's boy took a spade from you in the sandbox ... Resentment, a tragedy for life! Wasn't it painful for you then and WELL TO HORRIBLE OFFENSIVE?!! Now, years later, you can remember this event with a smile or just love for yourself then in childhood.

And over the past two or three years, have you really had such cases when you were angry, and could not even think about something specific without anger, be it someone's act or words, and then calmed down, and now completely do you think or remember it differently?

And it was with you that you found yourself in a completely hopeless situation, and everything is bad and hopeless, and it seemed that it couldn’t be worse, let alone better and even more so? Then time passed, everything settled down, and after a while you understood that life goes on, and in it, in life, sometimes things are not like that. Your perception of the same situation has changed! The same events! Moreover, both then and later, your assessment of reality is completely “real” and “justified”.

Another example. Your friends tell you about their troubles, they are confused and panicked. And you think that everything is not so bad. And even see the exits that they have. And for them - they can be "closed". Or rather, not for them, but for their perception. Etc. I think there is no need to continue the examples.

So why does the same person first assess the situation as hopeless, and after a while - begins to see ways out and opportunities in it? Why do two different people see different possibilities in the same situation? Psychologists will give us a huge number of explanations, and they will be right, but these explanations, at least, did not always help me.

I found myself in situations that I regarded as hopeless.

I have been in states when I seemed to myself the most insignificant, useless, the most worthless or most unnecessary person, the most unattractive or unworthy.
I've been in a position where I don't want to live.
I used to be excruciatingly ashamed, I experienced a terrible sense of guilt.
I really hated it.
I was terribly afraid.
Everything seemed useless or unnecessary to me.

Depressed! some will say. Complexes! others will say. Weakling! - say the third. And they will be right. Or maybe not. Who, pray tell me, can swear that he has never had such situations or states?

So, about what made me sit down at the keyboard to write what you are reading now. Matrix.

The matrix is ​​a state.

A state of hopelessness, worthlessness, hopelessness and lack of rights. This is any state in which you see no way out or do not have access to internal resources.

Jump out of the matrix and the world will change. Your “objective” assessment of the situation, yourself, your capabilities or other people will change. Your REAL possibilities will change.

Why wait for many years until you gain life experience and become wiser? Or the help of psychologists, if you can just jump out of the matrix? How? Now find out!
Story one

Let me tell you a story about myself first. I immediately remembered the story about Alice, who sang a song “to herself”. She sang different songs, she was asked to be quieter, and sing "to herself", she sang. She sang so loudly. Beloved about yourself.

Moreover, I thought about it, being in a good mood, in a resource, so to speak. Looking back at the past, thinking about the present. I looked into the future and realized that, judging by my character, I would still have situations in which I could plunge into a state that I later called “matrix”, that is, simply a “bad” state, a state of inefficiency from which anything - I, the world, people - seem to be, shall we say, “bad”.

And I made a decision - not to believe any more in my perception in these states. Never. No matter what I see, no matter what I understand, no matter what I feel and no matter what others tell me that I am bad, or the situation is hopeless - I will stupidly believe. Believe in yourself, believe in the situation, believe in your destiny, believe in the person.

Note two points.
First, I made this decision while in a resourceful state.
And second, I made this decision IN ADVANCE.

Moreover, I MARKED the signs of the matrix state in advance so that, when it happens, I would RECOGNIZE it in time. Usually a person does not notice when he is loading, and when he notices - it's too late.

And I started to train. First of all, I began to train my ability to notice that I am in a matrix state. Then - the ability to jump out of it. So I explored the signs of the Matrix and the ways of liberation from it.
Story two

One day, my daughter and I are walking around the square, and she, a twelve-year-old snot, suddenly is rude to me. To whom?!! To the father who fed and raised?! And even without a reason?!

Not fair. Painfully. It's a shame. As soon as I took a deep breath into my chest to yell at her, it suddenly dawns on me that I am in the Matrix. In the most natural

And all the signs of it are there. Is there anger? There is. Is there helplessness? There is. Do you have a feeling of noble indignation, indignation, of your own absolute and indisputable rightness, violated justice, of the extraordinary importance of making sacred retribution RIGHT NOW? There is! Is there an assessment of the daughter as maliciously acting and ABSOLUTELY WRONG? There is.

Everything is in full swing in my soul, emotions have spread and run amok, and I stupidly tell myself: “Do not believe it, this is the matrix.”
“So how…?!”
"Shut up," I tell myself, "you're in the Matrix."
“So she’s like this with me…?!”
“It doesn’t matter, first get out of the Matrix, then act.”

Let's repeat:
Get out of the Matrix first, then act!

The Matrix has one feature. The same as for viruses. The Matrix is ​​invulnerable and has power over our perception and state as long as it is unidentified. As soon as it is identified, its influence weakens, up to the point of disappearance.

And I just decided to wait with the reaction until the distortions of my perception disappeared, although all of it, my perception, and all the signals of my reality told me that this perception of mine was correct.

The Matrix is ​​a special perception of reality, Others and oneself.

But I decided no. This is the matrix, and I will “defeat” it. And, you know, won!

Literally after a couple of minutes of my “silence in anticipation of a miracle”, it dawns on me - “Bah, so I didn’t have other choices in reactions at that moment! I could only get angry and indignant - that's all!”

But there are other reactions as well. There is a sense of power. There is humor. There is wisdom in dealing with a spoiled, presumptuous and ungrateful child.

I felt relieved and energized. I became able to think: “What do I want now? What I need?".
Answers came: “So that my daughter respects me. So that she understands what she is doing. So that she notices if she hurts another. To listen. To be well-mannered person. To understand that I'm right."
Well, okay, I thought. Let's be mature, wise and cunning. I'll show her how to mock her father! We'll figure it out at home!

STOP! Something is wrong! What - I still do not understand, but something is clearly not right. Stopped myself. Matrix again. Lighter, already without a sense of helplessness and hopelessness, but - she, darling.

I moved away from the “I'm not OK” position, but left the “She's not OK” position!

ANY POSITION "NOT OK" - MATRIX!!!

This is what I decided for myself once and I'm not going to deviate from my decision.

Well, I think we'll wait a little more. Perhaps we will jump out of this Matrix. Relax and just wait. We are already on the bus. It's warm and dry here, it's raining outside. Katka next to him frowning. She is not up to me. Thinks. The exit from this matrix was long - for about five minutes I just sat and calmly waited. And suddenly - “BAM!”

God, she's just a child! My child! And I'm an adult. I am her father. Wise, big and strong. I just recognized the Matrices. But she, too, can be in her Matrices. And not know about it. And she might feel bad! And I, so big and strong, take offense as Small child. She simply made a mistake, and I took advantage of her mistake to experience a pleasant feeling of noble indignation. God, poor girl!

Love. Love, sympathy and tenderness overwhelmed me, I turn to Katyushka - and she has tears in her eyes. I don’t have time to say anything yet, but she already clung to me: “Daddy, forgive me, I love you!”. “Daughter, what are you, it’s you, forgive me, I’m also wrong.” We hug. We kiss. Happy end.

Not easy. Very difficult.

Know that you are not always right. That it's not you that's hurting, it's you. That things are often not what they seem. But it's liberating. Releases from pain, causation and compulsion. From worthlessness and hopelessness. This is the path to Love. This is the path to Light. This is my world. And I want to live in it.
After poetry - to prose

The matrix is ​​not alone. A lot of them. They are like nesting dolls in each other. Jumping out of a heavier one, you get into a lighter one.

You will recognize - you will jump out of it. But know that the new reality is also subjective and it can also be matrix. A little later, clear criteria for the Matrix will be given.

It is important to ALWAYS check your reality for its “matrixness”.

I know people who are ALWAYS in the matrices. Some zealously adhere to only one. Others alternate habitats, traveling from matrix to matrix, skipping "normal" levels. Still others sometimes, by chance, fall out of the matrices, and then imperceptibly are “drawn” into them again. Fourth, there are "pushed" by other people or circumstances. Fifths simply cannot live in a world without matrices. He is unfamiliar to them, and therefore dangerous. And - themselves "jump" into them.

In the above example, I visited two matrices. Which and why - we will analyze later. Someone else could "skip" the level of "OK" reality and fall into the matrix of self-abasement and self-blame. “Ah, I am such a rasta! Worthless father, and not a man at all!” etc.

It turns out that it is also important to recognize “one's own”, “normal” layer of reality and stay in it. And for this it is important to study “your” reality, that is, the one in which you want to live.

This is the Reality in which you have:

good condition and mood,
in which you are effective,
in which you are able to establish and maintain the relationships you need and want,
establish the status you need in these relationships,
easily and with pleasure to achieve the results you need,
predict and create events,
experience the states you desire,
choose those people with whom you are pleased and easy, with whom you want to be;
do what you want
want what you have chosen;
A reality in which it is easy for you to make decisions,
where you know what you want
Reality where you know what's going on
Reality where you know what you are doing.

Advice. In order to study this Reality, and everyone has it, it is necessary to study ALL the cases when YOU HAD IT. Remember in every detail.

It is useful to study this reality on line, i.e. DURING ITS EXISTENCE. When you feel good RIGHT NOW, or when you are effective right now. It is useful to REMEMBER such states and situations. Keep a piggy bank or archive of these states and situations. They are the ones who will let you know what your REAL Reality is.

It is they who will be a guide, a beacon in the search for ways out of the labyrinths of your usual matrices. It is necessary to study: sensations, any state parameters, features of Perception, Thinking, Behavior, Reactions, Estimates. All this is important, all this will help you in a difficult situation, when something is unclear, or the whole world is with you against you.

I remember a fantasy series in which a group of people travel around the worlds in parallel realities in search of "their" Earth. On each "Earth" everything is very similar to their world, but something is different. The problem was not to confuse someone else's world with our own. And they confused, took someone else's for their own. And because of this, they got into strange situations.

The problem was also not to take your world for someone else's, otherwise, if you “catch” your world, but don’t recognize it, and jump into the next one, there is no guarantee that you will be lucky again and will be able to return here again. The film has an interesting ending. Someone stays in foreign worlds, choosing the one that is more attractive to him than the one from which he was. Someone got to their world, recognized it and stayed in it. And someone went further, choosing novelty and diversity. To each his own.
Types of matrices

There are three main types of Matrices:
1. Matrix about Reality - "She (Reality) is “Not OK""
2. Matrix about Others - "They (Others) are “Not OK""
3. Self Matrix - "I'm Not Okay"

And, "Not okay!" it can be in two different "cuts" of Reality:
A. Relationships, emotional, moral, ethical "assessment".
B. Reality, opportunities, information, business, perception of "facts", selectivity of attention (ignoring opportunities, and fixation on obstacles and limitations - situations, one's own, etc.).

That is, I can be "Not okay" in the sense - "bad", "not good", "bad acting", "goofy", "disgraced", "loser", "ugly" (if I am a woman), "useless", "stupid", "vile", etc. (3.A.)
And I can be “too weak for such a load” or “such an adversary”, “too poor”, “too young”, or “too old”, “just a woman”, “all alone, and therefore unable to do this and that.” ", "devoid of resources" in a real situation, "having no real options and choices" (3.B.)
The situation may be such for me that I will not decide on any actions, considering them "indecent", "inadmissible", "those that I, for my moral reasons, cannot take" (1.A.)
Or - "absolutely hopeless", "not giving me a chance", "devoid of resources and development options", etc. (1. B.)
Or - a person may seem to me "bad", "bad", or "acting badly", absolutely wrong", "insulting me", "wishing me bad" (2.A.)
Or - a person may seem to me unable to cope with the situation himself, really helpless, weaker than me (2.B.), or - "stronger than me", and therefore offending me (2.B.), or - striving to make me feel bad or hurt (2. A.)
A person ("these people") may seem stronger than me (that is, I may not see their obvious weaknesses and inability) (2.B.)

The categories "strong" - "weak" ("stronger - weaker" than me) are also added to this division.

Another person may be "Not OK" because he is "weak" and another may be "Not OK" because he is strong. If I regard his "strength" as "strength" - I may not decide to look for ways to resolve the situation, or even - I will not decide on the actions I need.

This option can be a matrix when I take another for a weak one, and - I start helping him - and - I fall into traps, become a slave to my desire to help, etc. Or - I get caught in a scam, overestimating the capabilities of the enemy (2.B.)
When the other person is "bad" (2.A.) but "strong" - that is, stronger than me, and I "suffer from his actions caused by his bad intentions"
There are two options for the "activity" of the Matrix.

Incomplete capture by the Matrix: A person understands that this is subjectivity, but cannot do anything with their perception or state. "It doesn't matter" cannot find exits, ways, ways to change the situation in the surrounding reality.
Full capture by the matrix state and matrix thinking: The person believes, "That this is an objective reality."

And we can also distinguish (according to the sources of the matrix state):

Emotional Matrix
Belief Matrix
Expectation Matrix
View Matrix
Hope Matrix
The Matrix of Conviction and Faith
Matrix of Delusions
Stereotype Matrix
Lifestyle Matrix
habit matrix
Matrix of context and behavioral (contextual) trap
Habitual Relationship Matrix
Matrix of Habitual Responses
Role Matrix
Status Matrix
Behavioral Position Matrix

And another text, written much later, in continuation of this topic:
End criteria, or process quality criteria. Orientation in the Matrix.

A task. There is a situation (situations) when you easily fly into a certain Matrix, in which your ability to navigate is sharply reduced or distorted. And you only know about it when it's too late to do anything. How to be in this case? How to prepare for it so that you can be sure of your own safety?

In a situation where:
1. You don't know what to do:
2. You don't know what goals to set. Psychology says that goals are necessary for effectiveness. What do you do when you can't define your goals? If the emotions or state are such that all your conscious abilities are blocked, and the situation itself cannot be avoided. This means that you are missing some important landmarks, or now you have them, but you know (fear) that the time will come (a situation will come) and you will lose access to these landmarks; moreover, this can be in two versions: you may know that the availability of landmarks has decreased, or you may not notice it.

In other words, in a problematic situation, the availability of landmarks is sharply reduced.

Two preparation options:
1. Quality.
2. Express method.

It is here that the technique of determining extreme and optimal options (and their signs) can come to the rescue.

Here are some questions that will help you find the right answers to better guide you in difficult situation(You can use these questions to yourself both BEFORE and DURING the situation):

How should it all end? What should be at the end? How do I know (which should let me know) when it's time to end?
How do I know when a dangerous moment is coming?
What do I really not want?
What am I afraid of, how can I know the approach of this? By what signs? Are there signs of this in other people's behavior? What specific parameters of the behavior of another person: words (what specific phrases?), intonation, volume of speech, facial expressions, gestures, posture, pace, intensity and amplitude of movements, emotions, reactions?
How do I know everything is going well?
How do I know RIGHT THERE that THEN I won't regret what happens?

This is in the case when in the PAST EXPERIENCE you already had cases when you did something, believing that you were doing the right thing, made decisions, being absolutely sure of their correctness, behaved in a certain way, believing that it was necessary behave, formalize relationships in a certain way, without even realizing their true consequences, etc., but in the end, after the end of a meeting, contact or situation, and sometimes even after the end of a whole period of life, sometimes after a long time , You suddenly realized that in fact everything was not as it seemed, not as it should have been, not as you really needed, not as you REALLY wanted.

Not so, in terms of consequences, not so in terms of the quality of processes, not so in the scope of your entire life path. When you discovered that THEN, IN THAT MOMENT, your perception (of the present, past or future, situation, relationships, meanings, consequences, circumstances, causes, grounds) was distorted, your actions did not ultimately correspond to your interests.

And four more important questions:
1. What exactly should be?
2. What should never happen?
3. What is desirable for me?
4. What, in principle, is undesirable, but acceptable?

As soon as you break the entire possible Reality into these four areas, your orientation in the current reality, and the degree of control over it, increases many times over.

A small digression that should have been placed at the beginning of the article:
Orientation in reality

The person may not know:

What is really happening.
What does he do.
Why is he really doing this?
What does he want.
What does he really want in this situation? It may seem to him that he knows this, but often this is only an illusion. We need strategies to define reality for reality.

It is important for a person to be able to navigate:

In what's going on
In what he does
In why he does it (what results he wants to achieve by these actions)
Whether or not he achieves the results he aspired to by initiating his actions.
Considering the multi-layered Reality - what are side effects and the consequences of these actions. To what extent are they consistent with his original goals. To what extent they are consistent with its other goals and values.
Given that a person may not know and not notice what else and how he does what he does - what else does he do, besides what he thinks he knows what he does.
Given that a person may not know ALL the motives and goals that affect his actions, choices, decisions, perceptions, interpretations, assessments, assumptions, reactions, emotions and state - what else affects my actions?

So far, that's all I've got.
To be continued...

What made you come to this section?
Do you feel like you don't treat yourself well enough?
What are your claims? Or who has a claim against you?

…Okay, it's not that big of a deal.
The main thing is this: if you feel constant self-doubt,
that's to blame just one of your inclinations. More precisely, not a tendency
and even dependence - dependence on someone else's opinion.
Everything. There are no other people to blame for your self-doubt in nature.

Yes, it is: there is only one guilty, but this is your enemy so powerful,
that it is simply dangerous to underestimate him. All your complexes, but in the load
all your fears, doubts, throwing and other self-doubt are
a direct consequence of the habit of looking back and focusing on someone else's opinion.
And you know...
Complexes, fears, doubts and throwing - these are all flowers.
And the berries - here they are: looking back at the opinion of the environment and striving
meet his (environment) expectations, you kill the uniqueness in yourself.
Yes, simply and almost voluntarily - you lose yourself.

How to get yourself back?

Start by constantly reminding yourself:

I was not created by people. I was conceived and embodied by God himself,
and each of His creations is perfect. And unique.

As a child, it never even crossed your mind to question it.
It was your solid knowledge. What are you saying you don't remember?
Then just look at the children and you will see: they are sure of their perfection.

And you had such confidence, that's for sure.
But then... Then this confidence was etched out of you.
This happened to almost all of us: we were put in a column,
cut their forelocks and explained the rules of the movement - they say, over there is a sample,
go there and go. Whoever does not rush is a white crow.

And those who did not understand or did not want to obey - in a corner. Or a belt.
This is how the habit of looking back and checking with the general progress of the friendly column is formed.
And from this all my life I suffer and sigh: they say, how far am I from the “ideal”.

... I confess honestly, with dependence on someone else's opinion, with this simply painful
expectation of praise (or fear of censure) I lead in my practice
the most bloody battles - and I can not boast that I always win.
But when it happens, when my clients begin to truly appreciate
their uniqueness and finally stop looking around in search of
admiring (or condemning) glances - a rapid transformation takes place.

It's like a miracle. And you can do it - just stop looking at someone else's opinion.
And love your uniqueness. And turn away, finally, from the pattern by which
they try to mold people like plastic dolls.

…Just don't misunderstand me.

I'm not at all calling for falling out of society,
stop focusing on it and even more so go across it - in no case.
I want to convey this: allow yourself to be yourself, and allow others to be different.
To do this, from time to time say (better out loud) this phrase:

God created me. God created everyone.
Am I ready to criticize him?

This is a spell. Use it.

And to help this really effective spell
you can choose any of the presented in this section
sessions. During each of these sessions, I address
to your subconscious and give it this instruction:
remind you constantly what a nice person you are,
and that everything is all right with you.

Session "Liberation from matrix thinking" (30 minutes)

During this session, you will go through a very special ritual,
which, I declare responsibly, has magical power.

By accepting this ritual, you will have a completely different look at what happened to you in the past and what is happening right now. No, it will not happen against your will.

New vision (so I will call it) - yes, it opens, and it still happens, and with the feeling that some kind of veil has been removed. But for this to happen, for you to have a true view of what is happening, where you do not speculate, but literally see the true alignment of the events of your life - for this you need
your firm intention. It's like this: " Yes, I do have the intention to wake up to see myself and everything that happens in the true light."

You can take this session an unlimited number of times - until you realize that yes, it happened:
your consciousness has been freed from matrix thinking.

How will you understand it? There is one very accurate measure of freedom
from matrix thinking. Guess what? That's right: miracles. This is how (at first) you will call the fulfillment of what you ask for in your prayers.

Session "Positive Thinking" (59 minutes)

This session program is designed to form, develop and strengthen the ability to think positively - in any situation and under any circumstances.

The Positive Thinking session is a solution built on the strict principles of psycholinguistics. At its core, this is an appeal to your inner forces, to your subconscious, with an instruction to free your mental field from restraining
and frankly destructive programs that prevent full perception, and thus provide the consciousness with a productive position, where the focus of attention
is automatically set on what evokes a positively charged feeling.

However, when there is a desire to take a session
several times - please, to your health.

Session-briefing "Training effective meditation» (43 minutes)

Meditation is a way to go beyond your limited
(everyone in a row) consciousness and learn about yourself SUCH that removes
all sorts of restrictions and gives reinforced concrete confidence that
that your powers and your possibilities are not limited by anything.

Tell me, can you meditate?

Well, yes, it is: meditation is not something there,
but a really serious skill that is being formed
based on certain rules which would be nice
observe - not just to sit / lie with eyes closed, but really overcome the boundaries of your consciousness, and there,
beyond these limits:
1) find reliable solutions to their problems and
2) get clear answers to very, very many of their questions.

Session-program "I'M WHAT YOU NEED!"

Healing solution aimed at increasing self-esteem.
"I am what you need" is a program that includes
Practical guide
and audio session (57 min.)

Application of the program "I'm what you need!" in the recommended mode provides noticeable results, among which the most obvious are the following:
1. Change in attitude towards self in the direction of awareness of value
own personality;
2. Positive (and usually very visible) changes
in fulfillment and quality of life.
on the level of consciousness and on the level of the subconscious, it really works: it makes relationships with people more conscious, and therefore more careful, truly warm and open.

The book consists of three parts:

In the first part you will not learn about how the brain works, much less how it functions.
Also, you will not learn the numerous secrets of thinking of prominent and famous people how they thought and how they achieved such power of mind.
Also, you will not know why and how most people 99% have difficulty thinking, generating new ideas, difficulty concentrating, problems with motivation, fail in making decisions.

But in the first part, you will learn about the methods of thinking that you could know, read in different books or hear from successful and not very people before getting acquainted with the matrix method. Perhaps some of you have been involved in improving your thinking, then the approach to this book may change your idea of ​​the way to improve your thinking.

So the first part included and organically fit into the functionality of the matrix method such methods of improving thinking as: thinking maps, metaforming, Lateral and Water logics, Dialectical approach.

In the second part you will learn the nine basic principles of matrix thinking, get acquainted and try 22+ tricks from the arsenal of the matrix thinking method. You will also learn the laws and rules for the most effective use of the principles of matrix thinking. These laws and practical advice aimed at engaging the necessary levels of thinking, freed themselves from the linear perception of events, the dualism of "good and bad" and reached a new level of efficiency in their activities. At the end of the second part, recommendations are presented on how to work with the results of matrix thinking and how to supplement the method with your own techniques and tools.

In the third part you will get acquainted with ready-made concepts in the field of business management and decision-making, built on the principles of matrix thinking, which have proven their practicality and applicability.

The book presents numerous techniques, so I excluded additional tasks and exercises from the book, and thus did not overload the book with space for execution, as thinking and responsible people will find time, a piece of paper and a pen to work out this or that technique. Given that the techniques of matrix thinking can complement each other or be combined into one. Thus, there is ample space for practice and work. To reach the master level, you need to perform the technique until you feel an additional degree of freedom. You can compare the results of applying the matrix method with the results of research by different authors, which are presented in the third part.

Further development method

We can talk about combining techniques and mutual reinforcement and increasing the efficiency of the matrix method after mastering the basic techniques and principles. A separate book will be devoted to the improvement of the method. Access to advanced materials will also be available on the site. www.3x3mind.com.

The application of matrix thinking involves not only solving problems, making decisions and generating new ideas. First of all, this is a change in one's own perception of the world, the laws of logic and one's capabilities.

Areas of application of Matrix thinking:

In the life of an individual, in interpersonal communication, in the field of education.

In professional life, in business management and in building a knowledge management system.

In creativity, in strategic management and in solving complex problems that have not yet been resolved.

Exercises

Performing exercises allows you to translate the acquired knowledge into skills, actions and results. This will allow you to receive and evaluate the results of your progress in mastering the matrix method of thinking, and will also provide valuable information for self-supplementing the matrix method.

You will need a notebook and a pen to complete the exercises. If you want to receive maximum effect then it could be notepad Matrix 3x 3, in the series, for both beginners and professionals. You can print the notebook from the site, or order it there.

The systematic implementation of the exercises will allow you to enter the style of matrix thinking, develop a style and track the results of advancing and improving thinking.

Levels of ownership of the method

Zero level, it is the most important and borderline. You either start to improve your thinking by doing the exercises, returning to new points that you are sure to see in the material you read earlier after doing the exercises several times. Since the experience and knowledge gained will allow you to understand and evaluate the information in the book in a new way, as well as distribute your attention. The second option, you look through this book, find a few familiar phrases and ideas, complain that the development of thinking is too difficult for you, put up with a lack of ambition and close the book without completing a single exercise, and it doesn’t matter how much you read.

Perhaps people with an advanced level of intelligence, developed thinking, inquisitive or polyglot can skip some chapters and start with what is of particular interest, and then return to what was skipped if necessary.

First level– you begin to develop thinking, this is the first book of its kind. You want to become smarter, easier to decide challenging tasks be able to find opportunities and are not afraid of challenges. Then you should read this book consistently, get general idea, try to apply the acquired knowledge in practice and only then, read in depth, performing each exercise, and bring the methods of thinking to a specific result.

Second level- if you are already familiar with the principles and basic techniques from lectures or seminars on matrix thinking and want to systematize the knowledge and skills gained, then start with what you know well, with the principles and exercises, and then move on to the first conceptual part. Also, in order to feel the difference, I propose to turn to two three sources, methods of improving thinking, in order to get a response and not to miss the main methods of thinking, which are only in the matrix method and constitute its essence.

Third level- for those who caught distinctive features matrix thinking and began to actively supplement the techniques and combine them, I propose to identify and include in the work of thinking several of my own matrix principles, and try to go through the techniques, combining each time with the matrix technique and getting each time new level decisions, or results in a new dimension. Also at this level, it is important to ground thinking, receive feedback on the results of actions, based on the analysis of situations, and also hone your own matrix techniques, bringing them to automatisms and a combinatorial variety of options.

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Why did I decide to write this book?
Firstly, it is fundamentally new idea thinking that opens up new possibilities.

Secondly, all the techniques and principles of the matrix method of thinking are collected in one book.

Third, to put up a barrier to the return of primitivism, or even to the perversion of thinking.

Fourth, merge thinking people and lovers different methods for sharing experience.

Fifth, is an attempt to increase the efficiency of the learning process and the development of new knowledge.

As Tony Buzan rightly points out, not just certain techniques must be taught,
but also a style, a certain manner, culture (added by the author) thinking.

Of course, the moment when it is necessary to overcome the skepticism of publishers and attract the attention of readers has come.
I NEED YOUR HELP!
And if there are 250 million supporters of Mind Maps around the world, millions of adherents of NLP, TRIZ and other methods of thinking, then you are holding a book in your hands and standing at the very beginning of the path, and it depends on you whether you want to be among the first to the advantages of being a pioneer of a new method of thinking, or do you prefer to be interested in a method only after it has been mastered and used by all the people in your environment?!

Do you want to get the advantage of thinking! Then read this book.
Refine your thinking for outstanding results.

The work and improvement of the "Matrix Method of Thinking" continues.
I will be very grateful for comments and observations, feedback and recommendations,
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