How to calm down when your life is collapsing. Advice: try to help yourself get out of the state of a victim in which you are now to the state of the creator of your life or someone who is able to get out of this dead end by changing your attitude towards what is happening

What to do when your life is going to hell? Business is collapsing, work cannot be found, long-standing relationships are breaking up, friends are leaving... Are you increasingly overwhelmed by bewilderment, fear, panic, which are gradually replaced by powerlessness and emptiness?

A year and a half ago, quite strange things began to happen to me. In almost a couple of months, all my clients left me one by one. Then friends, girlfriends, and acquaintances gradually began to disappear. Moreover, we did not quarrel, did not swear, we simply stopped communicating, calling and meeting each other. There were no new clients to be found (even with my vast work experience, connections and excellent portfolio). The money was melting away.

My enthusiasm and optimism too. At first, I blamed everything on the notorious financial crisis, which began exactly at the same time when my last client left me. However, this was far from the first financial crisis in my life (to put it mildly, there were worse ones), and each time I managed to find a job and never suffered from lack of money. Something strange was happening here! The usual strategies for achieving goals did not work. My commercial offers, meetings and negotiations did not bring the expected results. Gradually, I began to get the feeling that I was hitting my forehead against a wall, and I was unlikely to be able to break through it. And only one question loomed in my head: “What is going on?”

And then one day I accidentally came across a video lecture by Isset Kotelnikova on the Internet “Levels spiritual development" It was this lecture that immediately answered a question that had been tormenting me for a long time, and in general radically changed my understanding of human spiritual development. According to this theory, there are as many as seven levels of spiritual development. Conventionally, they are named according to the colors of the rainbow: “red”, “orange”, “yellow”, “green”, “blue”, “blue”, “violet”. Most low level spiritual development - “red”, the highest - “purple”. “Blues” and “purples” are not represented in society.

Therefore, the maximum level of spiritual development for a “mere mortal” is blue. I won’t write about all levels in this article. I’ll only talk about the third and fourth, since it is the transition from the “yellow” level to the “green” that can be especially painful for a person. So, people are of the “yellow” level of spiritual development. What are they? Ambitious, vain, assertive, strong-willed and purposeful. Once they have set a goal, they will achieve it in every possible way.

Obstacles and obstacles do not frighten them, but rather spur them on. They clearly know what they want, plan well, set deadlines, and distribute tasks to subordinates. Workaholics to the core. Power and influence, in their opinion, are the main things to strive for. At this level the ego is greatly inflated.

For “yellows,” a sense of self-worth, uniqueness, and originality is important. Status, position, position in society, and the impression they make on the people around them are of great importance to them. Their vocabulary is replete with the words “professionalism”, “efficiency”, “success”, “reputation”, “image”. They sincerely believe that they are the ones who rule the world and the outcome of the work they have begun depends only on them.

It would not be amiss to say that such a worldview of the “yellows”, in addition to external success, also rewards you with a rather uncomfortable internal state: constant worry about one’s own image, the obligation to meet certain standards, the fear of not being up to par, the fear of losing influence and power, the need to be constantly competitive and in demand. Enough a large number of people live precisely on this level and do not think of leaving it.

However, there are also those for whom “life in character” and the eternal pursuit of success begins to weigh down. And then they come to their aid higher power. And at first, carefully, and then more harshly, they begin to guide them to the next level of spiritual development. The “green” level is the level of ego grinding. When what becomes more important for a person is not himself, but what he does.

He begins to ask questions: “Who am I really and why did I come into this world?” This is where the theme of service comes in. The system of values, the idea of ​​the world order, and life in general are changing. Personal interests, benefits and ambitions fade into the background, the main thing becomes the fulfillment of one’s destiny. Illusions are shattered, stereotypes are destroyed, lies are exposed.

The voice of the Soul becomes louder. The ego gradually becomes silent. The search for the real self, real relationships, real business begins. At the “green” level, control goes away, trust in the universe appears, and a feeling that everything is happening as it should. People of the first three levels of spiritual development (“red”, “orange”, “yellow”) come to this world in order to work out their own tasks. The task of people, starting from the “green” level, is to awaken other people and change the world around them.

The “green” level is divided into three parts. In the first part: people are still quite “yellow”, they learn to humble their ego and submit to the will of God. Next comes “point zero.” This is exactly the point I came to a year ago. And that’s what I’ll tell you about in more detail. "Point zero."

According to my observations, “point zero” is a period of lessons, without which a person cannot move further along his path. We so often complain about higher powers, saying that they are stingy and do not give us what we ask for. But in fact, it is not the higher powers who are stingy. It is we who are unable to accept what they send to us due to our fears, illusions, limiting beliefs, and addictions. Therefore, at “point zero” a person is taken away from everything to which he is strongly attached or with which he associates himself, leaving him with only the most necessary things.

If the status of a businessman is important to you, then most likely your business will collapse. If you cannot live without your beloved man, they will take this man away (and not necessarily to another world. He can simply go to another woman). At this stage, a person learns to live without the fear of loneliness, without the fear of being left without money, without the fear of “losing face,” of being rejected, of being funny, of being strange.

Image, reputation, brands, show-offs and other dregs disappear as unnecessary. And in its place comes inner freedom from any stereotypes and opinions, awareness of one’s own purpose and meaning in life, the desire to follow one’s own path, a feeling of security and comprehensive support from higher powers.

It is at this stage that a new life strategy is developed. There is no longer a mindless race for achievements, no goal setting and strict adherence to the assigned plan. There is no screaming ego, but there is a quiet voice of the soul. Suddenly you get the feeling that there is someone wiser and stronger who is guiding and admonishing you. And all you have to do is relax, listen to the voice of your higher self, follow it and trust it.

As I already said, “point zero” is the passage of unlearned lessons. This is all that slows us down, stops us, limits us. In Isset Kotelnikova’s lecture, these lessons are called “tails,” but I call them “weights” that dangle on your feet, constantly pulling you down, and do not leave a single chance for climbing to a new, higher level. high peak. Now I will tell you about my “weights”.

I managed to get rid of some completely, and some - partially. The heaviest “weight” for me was the fear of being left without work and without money. He has always followed me, from the very moment I started working. And it was this fear that prevented me from changing my field of activity and starting to do what I loved.

For the past few years, I have simply earned my living, not seeing much meaning in what I do, and only dreaming that someday I will do what I really like and receive pleasure and decent rewards from it. Finding myself at “point zero,” I was left without a single client and practically without money, but at the same time I had a lot of free time to realize my old dream.

I began to collaborate as a freelance writer with various publications, writing articles on psychology and self-development. They started paying me fees (albeit small ones). But, as I already wrote above, at “point zero” everything is taken away from a person, leaving him with only the essentials for a decent life. And it is precisely when you find yourself in this position that you simply begin to feel with your skin how higher powers care about you and your well-being.

It is at this moment that trust in the Universe is formed, a clear conviction appears that the fears of lack of money and poverty are the product of our ego, nothing more. And that when a person really takes his own path, he receives great support from God and he really has nothing to fear. You can safely take risks, experiment, change, fulfill your destiny.

At this stage, another of my heavy “weights” fell off - my total control over everything that happens in my life, and in the world around me. I suddenly felt that many of my desires, plans, judgments were simply ridiculous compared to what events and opportunities life had in store for me. Therefore, I let go of my expectations, stopped thinking about guarantees and insurance, relaxed and began to respond to the offers that the Universe throws at me. Another multi-ton “weight” of mine is the fear of “losing face.”

This is my long-term habit of giving the impression of a successful and sought-after professional and maintaining an appropriate image. But when starting a new business or mastering a new profession, it is impossible to immediately become a professional. First you need to learn, gain experience, make mistakes, fall, rise and go again. It was this “weight” that turned out to be a stumbling block in my desire to change my professional field of activity.

Plus a bunch of social beliefs, such as “it’s a shame to be unemployed”, “at 35 years old it’s stupid to start everything from scratch”, etc. Now I already understand that “image” is a completely “yellow” word. When you begin to accept yourself, hear yourself, feel yourself, then it becomes absolutely unclear how others perceive you, whether you meet any standards, whether you are considered an “effective employee” or a “cool professional.”

Your well-being and sense of self, your inner world, the value of yourself, your time, energy and life in general become more important. The next “weight” that falls off is waiting for inspiration. For some reason, it seemed to me that one should write easily and quickly, when letters fly out from under the “pen” and form words and sentences themselves. “The pangs of creativity” did not appeal to me. Of course, writing while in the flow is wonderful and, perhaps, best works happen precisely when you are in such a state. But, as it turns out, inspiration is not always kind to me.

And sometimes you just have to work hard. Having realized this, I finally started blogging and try to do it regularly. Still, discipline and hard work are an excellent legacy of the “yellow level”, which can also be used at the “green” level. In general, it is worth noting that a rather interesting and contradictory situation has developed. On the one hand, there is a lack of work and a severe lack of money, which in theory should greatly darken life. And on the other hand - a feeling of incredible happiness, lightness, the joy of living every moment of your life and a clear feeling that you are cared for, that you are loved, that you are expected...

For every person, at some point in life, the X hour may come, when the usual picture of the world collapses, and there is no the slightest idea about what will happen tomorrow...

My naive, rainbow and happy world collapsed overnight. Grief struck like a tsunami, sweeping away and destroying in its path everything that had been built over thirteen years of family life.

My husband, a military pilot, died in a car accident. I was left with two children, without work, without my own home, without the slightest idea of ​​what will happen to us tomorrow. It was ninety-three...

This shouldn't have happened?!

I remember that on that tragic day of my life, with all my being I longed for only one thing: understand, what was wrong with us, why and why law or someone's evil will this happened?!

Later, when I came to my senses a little, I remembered that for some time before this, he and I were in some strange state, as if we were constantly preparing for parting, saying goodbye, without realizing it...

My husband gave me instructions. He could suddenly, without paying attention to passers-by, pick me up in his arms and carry me like that all the way home...

"This shouldn't have happened to you", that’s what people told me. And in my soul there was riot against injustices of life!!!

The mercy of life is manifested through people.

It was at this moment that my friends introduced me to a woman who could view the past lives of other people.

As it turned out later, she was my mother, sister, lover, friend in past incarnations.

And this time it was she who helped me open the window of my consciousness so that I could start breathing, living and moving on again. For many years, already in this life, we became like-minded people. And now they are also grandmothers of their beloved grandson.

I experienced the first dive as a second birth.

First dive into past life I took it as proof of what I always wanted to believe: There is no death!

The joy of this realization that I have already been, am and, therefore, will be Always— is not comparable to any other feeling! Unless only at the moment of the birth of children!

I still clearly remember that piercing feeling when I held my eldest daughter to my chest for the first time and thought: there is no death! There is only endless life, there is only one infinite the delight of life!

Then, of course, unconsciously, I worried new meeting with the soul of my child, whom I have tragically lost in many lives. Pain and Joy were merged into one inseparable feeling love.

Why did I need all this?

Thus began my journey to myself. Fascinating, exciting, with amazing discoveries, dangers, worries, disappointments, pain and joy. Everything is like in life.

Sometimes the transformation of consciousness caused such pain in the body that it was difficult to move. But over time it went away on its own.

Sometimes the immersion turned out to be so deep that it required a lot of spiritual strength to go through all this and not lose a sense of reality...

But I know absolutely for sure: never, not at any of these moments of my research laws of the universe I was not left without the support of invisible helpers and kindred Souls, with the help of which I overcame my self-limitation.

And today in my heart lives endless Love And Gratitude for this help and mercy.

My Universe has become infinite!

Acceptance is what keeps me moving along this path.

Now I know the story of our love, written by us not only in this life. I know how hard it was for my husband to lose me in the past. Our souls learn to be free in love, helping each other to gain and accumulate spiritual and emotional strength.

Fate gave me another meeting with a man whom I have known for many, many lives. I've been waiting for her for 15 years. What was also surprising was that he was also looking for me, he was very close, but he was waiting in the wings.

The pain of separation and loss (I really hope and believe in it!) will no longer kill me and deprive me of my mind, as it did in my past incarnations. And I grateful dear soul, who agreed for me and for the sake of the souls of our children to this lesson.

It's worth experiencing.

But you should not think that just knowing the root cause of an event, if it has its roots in a past incarnation, automatically makes you free and happy.

My experience suggests that the deeper the problem, the more serious and global the transformation of our consciousness is necessary, the more evolutionary the process of human spiritual growth becomes.

Changes happen gradually, step by step, bringing us closer to our True Self.

But, if a person is ready, these changes can be rapid. And then an instant transformation occurs. I would compare this to how secret writing appears on a sheet of paper brought to the fire...

A person becomes more manifested in all his qualities, brighter as a person. It's worth experiencing.

Therefore, over the years the path itself has become a way of life and a way of thinking for me and my family. It is no longer possible to stop halfway. I began to look at everything differently.

A chance given to everyone.

From the very beginning of the emergence of the Institute of Reincarnation, it was important for me to understand in what direction its development would go? And what I see today inspires me very much.

I guess, that collective consciousness and support can greatly accelerate the evolutionary movement of each person. Moreover, right now humanity has received such a chance.

And I am among those who are ready to take advantage of this. And you?

P.S. It seems to me that my personal story can help someone find spiritual support at the most terrible moment of life, when everything is falling apart. Because only after experiencing this can you tell people: " Everything will be fine! "

P.P. S. How do you cope with life’s ups and downs?

Below I present three letters - one addressed to me (with the permission of the author and with minor changes) and two simply found on the Internet as living examples; you will definitely see analogies and even similar phrases, plus the identity of the problem. And when there is a problem, you need to SEEK ITS SOLUTION.

what's going on now? EVERYTHING is collapsing... and it’s hard without it. My son has been seriously ill since he was 5 years old - I have seen so much death - and it is still very difficult in all corners of life...

Just broken. That's why I wrote it. There is pain all around and it is very difficult. Although I try to survive... one friend says that you can make a movie based on my life alone...

Maybe look at my card?... I’ve been fighting for my son’s life for 25 years. My husband lost EVERYTHING!! - because we pay our own money for treatment - we are not citizens. The person with whom everything seemed fine suddenly left. Suddenly. My husband lost his job. We were deported. In short - WHERE?? FIND these forces that you write about…. I will try... Very...

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Hello, I am 22 years old, I am married, I have a beautiful daughter. It all started from the moment I became pregnant. My husband and I had just gotten married. everything was fine, but one day a crisis came, my husband was fired from his job. I worked as long as I could, then I went on maternity leave.

She gave birth to a child, and then constant moving began. there were 5 of them in the last year.

The husband seemed to be working, but somehow everything didn’t work out and he decided to start an entrepreneurial activity. At first everything seemed to work out, but then everything got worse...then the bank was owed a large sum, and now they are suing. Not long ago I found out that I was pregnant again.

Of course, I understood that it was not on time, but I was still very happy. my husband was not so positive. then the bleeding started. I called an ambulance, the hospital said that the child had been dead for a long time... it was not just a blow! Cleaned up...

Now a month has passed, I seem to have calmed down. but with money everything is bad. and my husband decided to work part-time as a taxi driver and today on the first day he lost all his documents and money...

I don’t know how to continue to live and what to do, this is the last straw, I can’t even cry anymore, I sit and giggle stupidly. and the worst thing is that I’m afraid of the future, because this is not a complete list of what happened to me over the past two years...

Help me please! How to find the strength to survive all this? how to start over

Thank you in advance…..

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what to do if life collapses?!

I’m losing all interest in life and the fight for a brighter future, I’ve just come to terms with the fact that I’m always alone (for quite a long period of my life).. And in recent years everything has generally gone in a bad direction, now I’m unemployed, I owe the bank a large amount, I crashed my car today...

I’m just already tired, tired of life, I can’t even cry because I’m tired... tired of these problems... the only thing that I think keeps me in this world is that I love my parents.. But for some reason it seems to me that this too will soon no longer be a hindrance for me, I can’t go on like this... tell me what should I do?

EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN SANTA BARBARA

In all three of these messages we see that problems roll in like a snowball and at some point some unpleasant event occurs (note - non-fatal!) and the person “breaks down”, that is, he reaches the limit of patience and catharsis occurs. Or the peak of the development cycle of his crisis situation.

Firstly, a person is deep inside a situation that seems to him to be a dead end. Looking from the outside, it doesn't seem so to us. It’s not without reason that they say that you need to “rise above” in order to see the whole picture or from a wider perspective. After all, everything is not so bad.

For example, we often compare ourselves with others - especially when they have something better or have something that we don’t have, and this plunges us into negative feelings of self-pity, envy, sadness, etc.

In this situation of “total collapse”, as advice, you can also suggest comparing your misfortunes with the misfortunes of others in order to feel better.

For example, some women do not have husbands and have to take care of themselves and their children, earn money, solve problems, make decisions, etc.

Some people don’t have a car and have to travel by public transport. Some people don’t have the money to afford to go abroad or just to the sea, etc. Someone does not have health, body parts, vision and hearing, parents, children, housing, etc.

Look at Nick Vuychich - if you think that everything is “bad” for you or that you have been deprived of something. He has neither arms nor legs, but he was able to cope with despondency and despair and even became rich, married a young beauty who bore him a daughter. He is a living motivation “not to be a victim.”

Are you still feeling bad? And do you feel left out?

Sometimes it seems to us that our life is like “Santa Barbara”, with many difficult moments, the first heroine even wrote that a film could be made based on her life, but look around - look at the lives of the people around you, delve into their stories. Each is its own movie, its own unique script, its own series and its own setbacks and failures.

Well, who among us hasn’t lost a job?

Hands up. Who among us has not been abandoned by a loved one? Any hands up? Who hasn't experienced financial difficulties, major losses, disasters, injuries and accidents? I think that all readers of this article are already sitting with their hands raised. Write if this is not the case.

I myself thought for a long time that the sphere of my personal relationships was completely Santa Barbara and that there was no more unhappy girl in the world, and then I saw that with others it happens not so, much more dramatic and complex.

Conclusion: your life is the same as hundreds and thousands of others, in some ways better, in some ways worse, and YOU ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO BE THANKFUL FOR.

Advice: try to help yourself get out of the victim state in which you are now to the state of the creator of your life or someone who is able to get out of this dead end, by changing your attitude to what is happening and changing the perspective of attention from focusing on “everything is bad” to focusing on Tom - what do you want instead and how to achieve it.

In no way do I want to encourage you to ignore the problem, I ask you to reset its importance, to reorient your focus. And this is the first step towards solving it.

They say that God does not give trials beyond our strength - we are able to get out of difficult situations, the main thing is to concentrate and gather ourselves. There are many examples when people came out of the most unimaginable situations, help came at the very last moment and in the most miraculous way. But you need to ask about it - God, the Highest.

In moments of despair, go to Him and pray for help, give your situation to Him for consideration. Say what you want, thank him and promise to accept everything as His will, humbly. And no matter what happens next, just live it, accepting it.

You cannot sew a severed leg back, so sometimes you need to learn to walk on a prosthesis and live in new conditions. Some even manage to become Olympic champions in this state. We always have a choice - to lie down and “die”, to give up and despair, to fight and win.

Sometimes it seems to us that life is over and there is no point in living further, hope dies, but in fact this is not the end of life, it is the completion of one of its chapters and then a new chapter opens. Let there be something different in it, but this is life, a different plot, a different script, and we have everything to write the best script in this chapter.

CLASSICS OF THE GENRE

Events that are generally considered the most negative are classics of the genre - divorce, loss of work and livelihood, loss of valuables, death of loved ones, health problems, injuries and accidents.

Any person experiences crisis, stress, depression and other negative feelings at this time, but you can react to them in different ways, for some it will be the “end of life”, and for others the “beginning of a new one”.

From the success stories of famous, rich and successful people, we can learn that they also had to go through such “bifurcation points” (the moment of no return), that is, difficult moments when everything collapsed for them, losses occurred, and other crises, but precisely from which began the starting point of their future success.

One of the major information businessmen said that his beloved girlfriend left him, after which he finally got up from the couch and created his own business. Now he is rich and another girl has been found whom he happily married.

Another famous blogger and trainer shared the story that a major car accident forced her to change her life dramatically, quit a prestigious job, leave a foreign country, think about the future, return to the country and create her own online training business.

And there are millions of such stories. Because that's how the Universe works. We develop through crises.

How else can we be woken up or pulled out of our usual routine, how can we be encouraged to evolve and develop? The Universe knocks on windows and doors, and if we don’t hear, then on our heads... so that we finally take our power and do something in our lives; or simply changed something, perhaps long desired, but ignored; or simply followed their Path, from which they deviated, etc.

Metaphorically, a comparison can be made - when a mother calls her child, but he does not hear or ignores the call, then the parent screams louder or even comes up and uses brute force in order to attract attention, so Our Heavenly Father calls, shouts and sometimes does what -to draw our attention to ourselves.

And yes, crisis situations are a close path to God, because many of us remember His existence only in difficult moments. And this is a great chance to turn to Him.

Conclusion: crisis situations draw your attention to Self, Truth and the Highest. Perhaps the time has come for changes in your life and you should not resist them. Perhaps it's time to take your Power. Perhaps this is a test of strength (more about this below in the Astrological interpretation of events).

Advice: try to change your attitude towards what is happening, reorient yourself from the end to a new beginning, be flexible and do not fall into despair - THERE IS A WAY OUT OF ANY SITUATION, even yours.

Well, judge for yourself - you lost your job, you will definitely find another one, you just need to make an effort and search hard. If you have suffered material damage, say “thank you, Lord, for taking me with money.” Your lover has left you, learn to live in love with yourself and life.

Does it feel like the world is collapsing? This is wrong! He's just rebuilding. And perhaps for you!

In this article, I described the Tao of Pluto and offered an exercise for getting out of plutonic depression - Pluto is associated with death and loss, deep transformations and rebirth.

In this exercise, you need to lie down in the bathtub with your head submerged under the water - a symbolic dive to the bottom, the moment of “death” and emerge “born again.”

When you hit the bottom of life, you have a chance to push off with your feet and begin to float up - the Tao of Pluto talks about scuba diving and diving into the depths.

ASTROCAUSES and RETURN OF SATURN

If we look at such destructive situations from an astrological point of view, here we are dealing with life and planetary cycles.

Each planet has its own cycle, for example, the cycle of the Moon, which reflects the structures of life processes - everything has birth, development, culmination and decline/death/end.

At the moment when several negative stories coincide in life at once (there are positive ones too, but we rarely note this as something significant), the climax, the full moon of life, comes. After some time there will be a decline.

On full moons, you usually need to part with something that has become obsolete; these are times of heightened emotionality and difficulties in controlling it. A little later, you will look at what happened with much less tragedy.

At these moments you need to allow yourself to live your emotions.

Saturn has long cycles, a full cycle lasting about 29-30 years and intermediate cycles of seven years. Saturn is considered a harsh planet, and I often associate it with Morozko from the fairy tale of the same name, when he tested the strength of the main characters by asking them “if they were warm” and then gave them gifts according to their test scores.

Likewise, life (Saturn) tests how humble, strong, wise, and ready to take responsibility for one’s life and become its Authors.

Here is the woman who wrote the first letter, who is just experiencing her Second Saturn Return (occurs around the age of 59-60).

This is a time of another restructuring of life, challenges of fate, tests and great opportunities with the task of determining long-term goals for your further development.

We perceive this time as a time of crises, we can be sad and despair, but Saturn is a strict and fair Teacher, he will bestow us in the future, but after a difficult period of change and restructuring.

Saturn asks us to engage in soul-searching and self-knowledge, to go through the process of re-inventorying ourselves and our ways of life. We may encounter something that does not work in our life, limitations and obstacles, see gaps, weak points.

Saturn slows us down so that we can look with a firm and cold gaze at the reality we have built in our lives and find new ways and means to become a true author - an authority - in our lives. We have another chance to become who we really are.

In mythology, Saturn is associated with the harvest, with rewards for efforts made. If we are willing to wait, work, persevere. Saturn is a strict Teacher and he asks us to clear away our psychological and physical garbage and dig up the soil (our psyche) before we plant new seeds (new intentions/new life).

During the Return we have the chance for real change and life-renewing rewards. This is truly a planet of opportunity.

During the Second Return, the wisdom of the Elder comes. Our personal and public safety is being reconsidered. This is a difficult time and harvest time, the results of work over the past years.

We ask a lot of questions at this time. We cannot repeat past mistakes. We are taking the first steps towards new beginnings.

Saturn often asks, “Whose movie am I in?” and challenges being a director and screenwriter. It would be too easy to read the lines of a well-known script. Instead, we must become Self-Authors and become the true Authors of our lives.

We need to rewrite the script of our lives. It's not always easy, our lives are full of people and situations that no longer reflect who we are. The human unconscious often creates situations that challenge us.

It is as if it is hiring other people to play certain roles in our life story - this one will be the boss, this one will be the victim, and this one will be the unfaithful lover.

Saturnian post-checks in life are associated with moments when these people play their roles and the time comes to adjust their life script. We must take back our projections and look at the drama of our lives as OUR responsibility. And don't blame anyone.

During the Second Return, Saturn calls for concrete action in the real world, but it is all very subtle. If we don't do what we need to do, we may never get a second chance. If you put off checking your health, it may be too late.

If you don't admit to yourself that “my job is killing me, but I need to wait until I retire,” it may actually kill you.

As the body ages, fatigue and depression increase, the body is no longer an object of pride and then the Spirit has a chance to come forward. Some old habits may show their heads and need to be cut off.

You may be asking yourself, “why do I have to deal with this issue again?” and the answer will be “because you’ve almost solved it.” Now you look at things more wisely and maturely. With the gift of wisdom, you complete unfinished tasks and situations.

At this time, you need to clean the very foundations - the basements of your existence and look at your de-idealizations, let the illusions go away. Now is the time to slow down and allow nice things to come into your life.

We can return to what gives the fruits of our experience - a certain project, something that we can do well and even better.

And here are the tools to help you pass the Saturnian checks:

1 To be discerning (discern (English) - to distinguish, recognize)

Since I am wiser today than I was a year ago and know much more, I can wisely use choices based on clarity of intentions. Dream of a future with a clearly visible path between the trees. “Know yourself” and “Nothing superfluous” - the inscriptions from the Delphic Temple are clearly for me.

Now I need to step back from the excesses of youth and clearly understand what I can and cannot do.

2 Be cordial

Take courage and ask knowledgeable people for advice. And in myself: how much I project my insecurities and fears into the surrounding reality, making my life miserable, unable to take responsibility and cordially perceive those around me.

3 Go deeper

“All or nothing” is a rather superficial quick fix, but Saturn doesn’t like quick fixes. No quick decisions or things done in a hurry! It is better to withstand the tension of tearing contradictions and internal conflicts until a new form of the idea appears.

And only then is it time to get out of your usual comfort zone and do it! “Dig deep - you will find precious water at the very bottom!”

4 Take action!

In the end, Saturn rewards those who do and depresses those who postpone from day to day.

It’s ironic - but while we are waiting (for the warmth and good weather of spring - by the sea of ​​​​good weather :)) Saturn is testing us for the strength of our faith - rebirth and rebirth. We are like seeds on a windowsill, waiting for seedlings and watering.

And in due time we must act, dig deep, separate the weeds from the emerging flowers...

...everything comes in due time..

We went into great detail on the Saturn Return cycle (especially for my reader who asked the question), but there are also many other cycles - for example, the Uranus opposition and the Neptune square at the age of about 40-42 years old called the Midlife Crisis, the Jupiter Return - occurs every 12 years old and also marks the beginning and end of certain milestones in life, an upgrade in life style.

Personal cycles can be learned through consultations with astrologers, and everyone has their own working astro influences in difficult moments of life.

Conclusion: current events are influenced by planetary, cosmic and other cycles.

Advice: if you need support in times of crisis, contact professional therapists (psychologists, astrologers, etc.) and support groups, ask for help from friends and family. They will definitely help you regain your lost hope.

When everything falls apart

Human life is full of surprises, both good and bad!

However, today I would like to touch on those life moments that radically affect people. Personal tragedies, breakups and losses.

To do this, let's imagine for a moment the life of some imaginary person and add to his fate what God forbid each of us to experience!

So, a child was born, let’s say a girl. The first day at school, everyday life, vacations, first love, graduated from school and entered college...

Seems like a standard period of life. Let’s not be distracted by “minor difficulties.”

Now let's see who (as a person) he has become 30-35 years old our imaginary person!?

That’s right, nothing “military” is listed here, the person has lived a fairly normal life up to this point, with the exception of children!

But why do we focus on this particular period? Yes, because the regularity of life over such a fairly large period of time (by the age of 30-35) already carries danger!

Don’t consider me a pessimist or a provocateur, I’ll just deliberately begin to change the life of our heroine radically and deplorably for her. And all because you can’t pretend that this doesn’t happen!

... Another 3 years have passed. And then something happens that some may think, “well, that’s life.”

Our heroine is abandoned by her loved one and leaves forever...

We will even close our eyes to the fact that this could not happen suddenly. Let's assume that our heroine was “blind” and did not notice when her family broke down.

Do you think it will be easy for her to get over this mentally?

I will say more, even if you throw away love and leave only a feeling of attachment, it will be a real tragedy. And if she also loved her husband, then the WHOLE WORLD would simply COLLAPSE around her!

She will not be able to: concentrate on work, enjoy the sun, communicate with friends, even think normally, and this will be difficult.

That's not all. It will be terribly difficult to fall asleep at night. And even having lost herself in a dream, she will wake up in the morning and feel as if a heavy pillar of sadness was falling on her chest. And grief (precisely grief) will overwhelm her with renewed vigor, like something dark and burning from the inside, will devour her, not allowing her to live normally. A sea of ​​tears and complete apathy to everything around them are inevitable.

Terrible? Unfortunately yes! There are very few people who can avoid all this if they find themselves in similar situation.

And the first reason here is sudden betrayal , which brought down all the inner and holy pillars. A person will never think that his measured and calm life can end overnight! And when this happens, the world around collapses!

The second reason- this is the one hidden danger, which comes with a long and measured period of life! The fact is that the depth and pain from the possible collapse of the usual way of life is proportional to the duration of this period. In other words, the longer it takes, the harder it is to forget and change everything!

And we don’t even touch on the material structure. Only internal state our heroine!

Here is one example that in an instant can completely change a person! And the worst thing is that the change is irrevocable. Believe me, there are fates much worse than the one we just presented! And don’t look for hints here, I simply couldn’t help but touch on this topic.

Well, now, I won’t cheat on myself and will give one effective advice to those who (I hope there are none) find themselves in a similar situation. And it doesn't matter whether it's a man or a woman. Betrayal and collapse hit everyone equally.

So. If the world collapses overnight , if you cannot believe that you have been betrayed dear person, and if this shock situation occurred to you, then YOU CAN'T TRY TO RETURN EVERYTHING AT ONCE!

Tears, requests, calls - all this is useless! Apart from aggravating the situation and additional pain, this will not bring.

You need to remove this internal feeling of horror and future mental picture of “what will happen next?”

And this is how it is done. There is no need to convince yourself that you strong man and everything that is not done is for the better. That's bullshit! This won't help!

On the contrary, imagine that in exactly a month, your loved one will return to you! Moreover, you need to present it in such a way that neither he nor you are to blame for what happened!

I understand: anger, love, hatred, sentimentality - all this will fill your consciousness in turn. Therefore, try to drive away negative thoughts and emotions from yourself, and leave only positive ones!

Draw yourself a situation in every detail, how in a month or two, you two YOU WILL BE TOGETHER AGAIN AND FOREVER!

I know what I am saying! That's exactly how it is! Your consciousness is already traumatized, so it is very important here GIVE IT WHAT IT'S LOST – regularity, even in dreams!

This is not self-deception! With the right attitude, it will be exactly as you draw your future within yourself!

Second. There is no need to think at the moment of grief whether you can forgive and accept it back or not. YOU WILL DECIDE THIS LATER! The most important thing now is your state of mind! Remember this!

Constantly imagine that everything is about to get better! Give yourself a specific deadline: in a month, three, six months, a year - but he (s) EVERYTHING WILL RETURN TO YOU AND YOU WILL BE HAPPY!

Third. Burn comedy series to DVD. Let them be primitive, the main thing is the result. And this is your laughter or smile! Watch them for several hours in a row!

All in all, Your goal is to soften the blow to your self-awareness! Everything else comes later! How long it will take you should also not worry.

Thoughts will still return to reality, and here you need to show your will. Convince yourself that your loved one just left for a couple of months.

I emphasize! This advice only suitable for those who are truly experiencing mental anguish in a similar situation!

May nothing like what is written above happen to you!

And let this information remain a regular article on the Internet for you!

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“The problem is not the problem. It all lies in your attitude towards her."

Capt. Jack Sparrow

In our lives, rarely anything goes according to plan. But no matter how our path turns out, all difficulties strengthen our character and help us become better. In addition, the challenges we face from time to time help us appreciate victories even more and make us look at things differently. the world And today's world dictates completely different rules, which makes it almost impossible not to encounter certain types of difficulties.

The key to solving a problem lies in how you deal with it. So read on for some tips that may help you maintain your confidence during the next difficult time when everything around you seems to be falling apart.

11 things to remember when everything falls apart

1. Other people's problems are not yours.

If you are used to empathizing with other people, then you probably feel that only you can solve their problems. However, this behavior can lead to complete exhaustion, and others will begin to perceive you as a personal psychologist or therapist who can be called at any time of the day or night. Of course, showing compassion and support to others is very important, but you need to find a balance between helping others and yourself.

2. Don't stop! Everything is going as it should.

Even if you feel like life is just a series of disasters between short periods of peace, don't give up! All these difficulties serve to test ourselves in order to make us better. They enable us to better cope with future problematic situations and learn valuable life lessons. Without struggle, we will not grow and develop as individuals.

3. Pain is temporary.

Any situation does not last forever: be it a difficult breakup, a struggle for financial stability, family quarrels or something else. Regardless of what you may have experienced before, calm down and remember that only you are the master of your emotions. You can emerge victorious from any situation and turn the pain you experience into an opportunity for growth.

4. Your pain gives you purpose.

Spiritual teachers of the past used to say that people attract bad situations and pain to themselves only if they themselves have led a negative lifestyle and clogged their minds with corresponding thoughts. This may not always be true, but often any negative situation can be seen as a valuable tool for own training and experience to test ourselves.

5. Make time for prayer or positive energy.

No matter what you may encounter, try to look at better side this situation and turn to your angels or spirit guides for higher wisdom. They will help ease your burdens or worries, giving you new energy to cope with it all. Prayer will remind you that everything on Earth is subject to complex, mysterious and cosmic factors that we cannot always understand.

6. Worry creates more problems, but faith transforms.

No amount of worry will change the situation. This will only cause you more pain and increase the influence of negative energy, creating more obstacles in your life. Keep a positive mindset and hope that the Universe has given you a test to pass and become a better person.

7. Perhaps you should do exactly what you are afraid to do.

The only way to stimulate personal growth- leave your comfort zone behind. Sometimes, you need to test and test the limits of your own capabilities to find out how resilient you are and discover something new in yourself. You can unearth a new passion and things deep within yourself that you never even thought about or knew about before. Conquer your fears and become a better person.

8. Bad days make you appreciate the good ones even more.

Without bad days, you wouldn't even know there were good days, because everything would turn into one gray solid mass. The funny thing about life is that we cannot know pleasure without pain, sadness, struggle, etc. We live in a dualistic reality, meaning we experience opposite ends of the same spectrum in most life experiences. Appreciate the experiences this world has to offer because often worst manifestations reveal your best sides.

9. Remember that you have enough influence and power over your life.

You don't have to become a victim of circumstances or give up. You are in complete control of your life and can easily turn a bad situation into a good one. Keep in mind that rainbows only appear after rain, so you must weather the storm to live happily later on.

10. If you allow yourself to think negatively, you will once again present yourself as a victim to others.

11. Don't worry, we all have ups and downs.

Just look forward and keep going. Next time you feel overwhelmed by pressure. modern life, just remember that you and millions of others are in the same position. The best thing you can and should do is to actively participate in your life and do what you like, what you love without a lot of pressure.

Keep calm and keep moving on

“The most important decision you can make is to be in a good mood.”