As they say, there are no hopeless situations. There are no hopeless situations! A miracle of engineering technology

Where is the way out of a hopeless situation?

A couple of years ago, I heard one phrase from a successful person that changed my outlook on many things. The phrase sounded like this: “There are no hopeless situations, there are unpleasant decisions.” And indeed, if you consider any hopeless situation, you can always find a way out, and not always an unpleasant one. So why do many people constantly find themselves in “no-win” situations?

Each of us has faced the problem of choice. The need for choice is constantly pursued: when shopping, looking for a job, lifestyle, and so on. What is better: to choose or to be in a situation “without choice”.

While understanding this situation, I discovered several main reasons for “hopeless situations.” And almost all of them are subjective in nature, which allows us to draw the following conclusion: a person drives himself into a framework. So, what are the reasons for this behavior:

1. The need to make decisions. When we make a choice, we are forced to make a decision. And this, in turn, forces you to bear responsibility, which is scary. “What if I choose the wrong thing, and then I will regret it” - such thoughts haunt a person. But this is not so scary. The saddest thing in this situation is that you will have no one to blame for your mistake but yourself. But we don’t want this, because it hurts our ego, which is the best.
2. The need to change something. People are afraid of choice because it entails the need for change. Man is by nature a conservative; it is easier for him to live and navigate under conditions of certainty. And when there is a choice between something known, but unpleasant, and something new, sometimes it is easier not to do anything, but to go with the flow, so familiar.
3. Fear of the unknown. This reason is a consequence of the previous one. As we have already found out, a person is afraid of the unknown and everyone possible ways trying to create for himself a world in which he will feel comfortable. This situation is described very well in the book “Who Stole My Cheese.” In the form of a fairy tale, three models of behavior are described under conditions of changing situations and the need to make a decision on how to proceed. The situation of “habit and fear of the unknown” is shown. But being afraid of the new, it is impossible to either return the past or create a favorable future. And the person falls into a trap, which ultimately forces him to choose, but time has already been lost.
4. Convenience. This reason is different from previous topics that choosing change is simply not part of a person’s plans. The current situation is convenient and quite satisfactory, but a person cannot always admit this to himself and others, since he may feel either that it is “wrong” or pressure from the outside. In this case, it is much easier to present the situation as hopeless than to explain why he does not want change. An example of such a situation would be a dysfunctional marriage. Despite external negative manifestations, people live comfortably together.
5. Laziness. When choosing changes, a person needs to make certain efforts, carry out actions, which in turn requires expending energy, and quite often we are simply too lazy to do anything and therefore it is easier to either go with the flow or choose the least labor-intensive option.
6. Contradiction with moral principles. Sometimes moral principles, or rather the inconsistency of the choice with them, prevent you from choosing. And if personal principles do not correspond to generally accepted ones, it is difficult for a person to resist and it is easier to find himself in a “hopeless” situation.
7. The desire to complain. This quality is characteristic of a person living in the post-Soviet space. And in a sense, such people are similar to energy vampires. It’s easier for a person to be in a hopeless, difficult situation and complain about how hard life is for him than to take and change something that doesn’t suit him.
8. That's how it is. It has already happened historically that in Soviet times it was shameful to have something better than others, to strive for something that everyone does not strive for. A “levelling” system was in effect. And echoes of this system sometimes appear even now. Yes, I don’t like the situation, but everyone lives like this, why change anything, why be different from others and take actions for this.

And yet, despite the situation of hopelessness, we unconsciously make a choice. After all, by refusing to change anything, we choose the current state of affairs or allow life to choose for us. In fact, we choose an option when someone else can choose for us. By staying in a job we don't like, we allow the employer to burden us with unpleasant work; not daring to leave our tyrant husband, we allow him to choose us as a victim.

All aspects of life involve choice, although not everyone can admit it. By complaining about hopelessness, we actually put our lives at the disposal of others and chance. By refusing to look for a way out, we allow others to choose for us. And this in turn leads to dissatisfaction and disappointment, because others choose in favor of their interests or according to their life views.

A person wants to be the master of his life, but desire alone is not enough. To keep it under control, sometimes it is enough to simply take part in it, namely, choose those situations and circumstances that are important and of value to you.

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Making an optimal decision is not the same as simply making a decision in general. Do you think that it is not enough to simply resolve the problem, but that the situation needs to be resolved in the best possible way? Welcome to the camp of neurotic perfectionists. But seriously, every person from time to time in life comes to understand the concept of “hopeless situations.” And you need to gain experience interacting with them.

Two conditions

In fact, even the term itself is highly controversial. What is a no-win situation? This is a state of affairs in which certain actions are required, and they and only they can help change the situation. That is, the only correct decision is assumed and it is impossible to refuse this decision.

Technology is easier than life

As you can see, there are two conditions. The first condition is met for a huge number of situations in technical systems. That is, in situations where everything is simplified by man (and the technical system is deliberately made simple), it turns out that the solution is the only one and correct. That is, this is the first criterion of a hopeless situation.

Just inaction

But with the second it is more difficult. It is almost never observed - so there are no hopeless situations. So, in almost every situation, you can refuse to act at all. Yes, this will also cost some difficulties, but this is solution option number two. This means that the situation is no longer hopeless.

Backed into a corner?

You might think that if there is only one solution to a problem, then you cannot assign it the characteristic being discussed. But it should be remembered that hopeless situations are called that way not because of the lack of a solution, but because of the lack of freedom in the process of trying to improve the situation. It turns out that assigning status to this state of affairs is a little complicated. That is, a situation with no solutions at all and a situation with the inevitability of action with one solution option are hopeless situations.

Emotions get in the way

However, we must remember that a person’s assessment of a problem is often complicated by negative emotional perception. For example, it has been found that poor people tend to make worse financial decisions when faced with unplanned spending. Negative emotional perception worsened the situation several times. And the intelligence of those making the decision dropped by several dozen points. This is why it is so important to learn to work with emotions in difficult situations.

Subjectivism makes it difficult to understand

It is also necessary to be aware that you may see the situation differently from those around you. And it is quite possible that you do not notice additional exit opportunities. Therefore, if you encounter “hopeless situations” too often, then you should make several friends who can help with analyzing the situation.

A little more psychology

And remember that the course of action begins “in the head.” Therefore, it is not so easy to solve a problem if mentally you have already failed. Of course, this does not mean that you should construct a fairy tale using methods and try to believe in it. Leave this to the gullible lovers of esotericism. But don't give up prematurely. Statistically, in difficult situations, the third or fourth solution often works, provided that the person does not give up. But before that you need to not stop active actions!

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