What is the window to sleep in infants? A magical way to put a baby to sleep that every parent can do. Why is it important to put your baby to bed not too early?
Is it possible from the first days of a baby’s life to learn to understand his “language” and begin to fully communicate with him? How to understand the character of a newborn in order to care for him, taking into account his personal characteristics and temperament? Are there simple and reliable ways to solve such common problems? infancy, like “unreasonable” crying or unwillingness to sleep at night?
Newborn care specialist Tracy Hogg talks about this and much more. Her many years of experience and recommendations have helped many families, including celebrity ones, cope with the difficulties of the first year of parenthood and raise happy and healthy babies. All of Tracy's advice is extremely practical and accessible to everyone, and the techniques she offers are extremely effective - perhaps because her approach is based on respect for newborn children, although small, but individuals.
Why this book is worth reading
- Tracy Hogg is one of the most famous authors of children's and parent's literature, she is recognized along with the eminent Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish, William and Martha Sears;
- a must-have for all parents who have newborns: you will understand what to expect and learn to cope even with what you did not expect;
- the author will competently and kindly explain to every mother and every father how to raise a happy child with love, respect and care;
- parents around the world call Tracy a modern Mary Poppins for her effective advice;
- modern pediatricians recommend the author's books to parents all over the world.
Who is author
Tracey Hogg is rightfully considered a modern-day Mary Poppins; young mothers all over the world use her methods to falling asleep independently babies.
The author was nurse, and in order to help babies, she had to learn to understand their language and decipher the signals they sent. Thanks to this, Tracy was able to master their non-verbal language. After moving to America, she devoted herself to caring for newborns and women in labor and helping young parents.
How to teach a baby to fall asleep on his own and sleep peacefully throughout the night?
My newborn baby was about two weeks old when I was suddenly struck with the realization that I would never be able to rest again. Well, never is perhaps too strong a word. There was still hope that by sending my son to college, I would still be able to sleep peacefully at night again. But I was ready to give my head to be cut off - while he is a baby, this does not happen to me.
Sandy Shelton. Calm night sleep and other lies
Sweet dreams, my dear!
In the first days of life, the main activity of a newborn is sleep. Some people sleep up to 23 hours a day in the first week! Of course, every living creature needs sleep, but for a newborn it is everything. While a baby sleeps, his brain works tirelessly to create the convolutions necessary for mental, physical and emotional development. If a child has had a good night's sleep, he is collected, focused and happy with everything - just like an adult after have a nice rest. He eats heartily, plays enthusiastically, radiates energy and actively communicates with others.
The body of a child who sleeps poorly cannot function normally because his nervous system is exhausted.
He is irritable and uncoordinated. The baby is reluctant to take the breast or bottle. He doesn't have the strength to explore the world. Worst of all, overtiredness aggravates the sleep problem. The fact is that bad sleep habits create vicious circle. Some babies are so tired that they are physically unable to calm down and fall asleep. Only when there is absolutely no strength left, the poor things finally switch off. It’s painful to watch how the baby literally deafens herself with her own crying, trying to isolate herself from the world, she is so overexcited and upset. But the worst thing is that even this hard-earned sleep turns out to be shallow and intermittent and sometimes lasts no longer than 20 minutes. As a result, the child almost constantly lives “on nerves.”
So, everything seems obvious. But would you know how many people do not understand this simple thing: in order to develop a healthy sleep habit, a baby needs parental guidance. So-called sleep problems are typical because many parents are unaware that they, and not their children, must decide when the baby should go to bed and how to fall asleep.
IN this chapter I will tell you what I myself think about this, and many of my thoughts will probably conflict with what you have read or heard from others. I'll teach you how to spot your baby's tiredness before it becomes overtired, and what to do if you've missed a valuable window of time when baby can be easily put down. You'll learn how to help your baby sleep and how to eliminate sleep difficulties before they become a long-term problem.
Down with misconceptions: light sleep
Now the minds of parents are dominated by two “schools” that are radically different from each other.
The first includes adherents co-sleeping, no matter what it’s called, whether it’s “sleeping in your parents’ bed” or the Sears method. (Dr. William Sears, a pediatrician in California, promotes the idea that infants should be allowed to sleep in their parents' bed until they ask for their own bed.) This method is based on the idea that the baby a positive attitude towards sleep and going to bed should be developed (here I am both in favor) and that the most correct way to this goal is to carry him in your arms, nurse and stroke him until the baby falls asleep (which I am categorically against). Sears, the method's most influential promoter, wondered in an interview published in Child magazine in 1998: "How can a mother want to put her baby in a twig box and leave him alone in a dark room?"
Proponents of parent-baby co-sleeping often point to traditions in other cultures, such as Bali, where newborns are kept in their arms until they are three months old. (But we don't live in Bali!) Members of the La Leche League suggest that if a baby is having a rough day, the mother should stay in bed with him, providing the extra contact and care he needs. All this serves to “strengthen attachment” and create a “feeling of security”, so supporters of this point of view believe that it is quite possible for mom and dad to sacrifice their time, privacy and their own need for sleep. And to make it easier for them to do this, Pat Yearian, a promoter of co-sleeping, whose opinion is given in the book “Women’s Art breastfeeding" (The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding), encourages frustrated parents to change their perspective: "If you can take a step toward being more tolerant [of your baby waking you up], you'll be able to enjoy those quiet moments at night. communicating with a newborn who needs your hands and affection, or a slightly older baby who just needs to be with someone.”
At the other extreme is the delayed response method, often called the Ferber method after Dr. Richard Ferber, director of the Center for Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Boston Children's Hospital. According to his theory, bad sleep habits are learned and therefore can be broken (which I wholeheartedly agree with). Accordingly, he recommends that parents put their baby in the crib while he is still awake and teach him to fall asleep on his own (I also agree with this). If the child, instead of falling asleep, begins to cry, actually turning to the parents with an appeal: “Come, take me away from here!” - Ferber advises leaving crying unattended for increasingly longer periods of time: on the first evening for five minutes, on the second for 10, then for 15, etc. (and here Dr. Ferber and I diverge). Dr. Ferber explains in Child magazine: “If a baby wants to play with a dangerous object, we say “no” and set boundaries that may cause him to protest…. The same thing happens when we explain to him that there are rules at night. It's in his best interest to get a good night's sleep."
Perhaps you have already joined one or the other camp.
If one of these two methods suits you and your child, and suits your lifestyle, do not hesitate to continue in the same spirit. But the fact is that I often get calls from people who have already tried both of these approaches. Usually events develop as follows. One parent initially favors the idea of co-sleeping with the baby and convinces their partner that this is the best thing to do. In the end, there really is something romantic in this - a kind of return “to the roots.” Yes, and night feedings cease to be a problem. An enthusiastic couple decides not to buy a crib at all. But several months pass—sometimes quite a lot—and the idyll ends. If mom and dad are very afraid to “sleep” the child, then they themselves may lose sleep due to constant fears, and someone develops painful sensitivity to the slightest sound made by the baby in his sleep.
The baby may wake frequently—every two hours—and demand attention. And while some babies just need to be stroked or held tight to make them fall asleep again, others think it’s time to play. As a result, parents are forced to roam around the apartment: one night they play with the child in the bedroom, the other they doze in the living room, trying to catch up. Be that as it may, if both of them were not 100% convinced of the correctness of the chosen method, internal resistance begins to grow in the one of them who succumbed to the persuasion of the other. This is where this parent grabs the “Ferber” method.
The couple decides that it’s time for the baby to get her own place to sleep, and buys a crib. From the baby’s point of view, this is a revolution, the collapse of the familiar world: “Here are my mom and dad, they put me to sleep with them for several months, rocked me to sleep, walked me, spared no effort to make me happy, and suddenly - bang! I was rejected, evicted to another room, where everything was alien and frightening! I don’t compare myself to a prisoner and I’m not afraid of the dark, because my infant mind does not know such concepts, but I am tormented by the question: “Where has everyone gone? Where are the dear warm bodies that were always there?” And I cry - I can’t ask otherwise: “Where are you?” And they finally appear. They stroke me, ask me to be smart and sleep. But no one taught me how to fall asleep on my own. I’m still a baby!”
In my opinion, radical methods Not suitable for all children. Obviously, they were not suitable for the children whose parents turn to me for help. I myself prefer from the very beginning to stick to what I consider the golden mean. I call my method the “smart approach to sleep.”
Three phases of falling asleep
When falling asleep, the child goes through these three phases. The entire cycle lasts about 20 minutes.
Phase 1: "window". Your child cannot say, “I’m tired.” But he will demonstrate this to you by yawning and other fatigue. Before he yawns for the third time, put him to bed. If this is not done, he will not go to the second phase of falling asleep, but will cry.
Phase 2: "blackout." The beginning of this phase is marked by the child’s characteristic gaze, frozen, directed to an unknown destination - I call it “a look into the distant distance.” The child holds it for 3-4 minutes, and although his eyes are open, he is not really looking anywhere - his consciousness is hovering somewhere between reality and sleep.
Phase 3: "slumber". Now the child resembles a person who has dozed off on a train: his eyes close, his head falls on his chest or to the side. It seems that he has already fallen asleep, but that’s not the case: his eyes suddenly open, his head jerks back to its previous position, so that his whole body shudders. Then the eyelids drop again, and this is repeated again and again three to five times, after which he finally falls asleep.
What is a smart approach to sleep?
This is the middle way, denying any extremes. You will notice that my approach takes something from both of the described principles, but not all, since, in my opinion, the idea of “let him cry and go to sleep” is not compatible with a respectful attitude towards the child, and co-sleeping forces parents to sacrifice their interests. My principle takes into account the interests of the family as a whole, the needs of all its members. On the one hand, the baby must be taught to fall asleep on his own - he must feel comfortable and safe in his own crib. On the other hand, he also needs our presence to calm down after stress. You cannot begin to solve the first problem until the second is solved. At the same time, parents also need good rest, in time that they can devote to themselves and each other; their life should not revolve around the baby around the clock, but they should still devote a certain amount of time, energy and attention to the baby. These goals are not at all mutually exclusive. Next, I will tell you what a smart approach to sleep is based on, and with this in mind, you will solve all the problems facing you. Throughout the text of the chapter, I will give examples of the practical implementation of each element to make it easier for you to master the first “C” of my wonderful PASS (Nutrition - Activity - Sleep - Free time parents - read more about this in other chapters - approx. Maternity.ru).
Go where you want to go. If the idea of co-sleeping appeals to you, explore it thoroughly. Is this how you would like to spend every night for three months? Six months? Longer? Remember, everything you do is teaching your child. So, if you help him fall asleep by holding him to your chest or rocking him to sleep for 40 minutes, you are essentially telling him, “This is how you should fall asleep.” When you decide to take this path, you must be prepared to stick with it for a long time.
Independence does not mean being ignored. When I tell the mother or father of a newborn baby: “We must help her become independent,” they look up at me in amazement: “Independent? But Tracy, she’s only a few hours old!” “When do you think we should start?” - I ask.
No one, not even scientists, can answer this question, because we do not know when exactly a baby begins to comprehend the world in the full sense of the word. “So start right now!” - I urge. But teaching independence does not mean giving up crying alone. This means meeting the baby's needs, including holding her when she cries - because by doing this she is trying to tell you something. But once her needs are met, she needs to be let go.
Observe without interfering. You may remember that I already made this recommendation when talking about playing with a baby. This is also true for sleep. Whenever a child falls asleep, he goes through a sequence of certain phases (see “The Three Phases of Falling asleep”). Parents should know this sequence well so as not to violate it. We should not interfere with the natural processes of the child’s life, but observe them, giving the baby the opportunity to fall asleep on his own.
Do not make your child dependent on crutches. I call a “crutch” any object or any action, without which the child experiences stress. There is no hope that the baby will learn to fall asleep on his own if you convince him that daddy’s hands, half an hour of rocking or mommy’s nipple in his mouth are always at his service. As I noted in Chapter 4, I encourage the use of pacifiers, but not as a plug for a crying baby. Shoving a pacifier or breast into a baby's mouth to shut him up is simply rude. Moreover, if we do this or endlessly carry the baby in our arms, cradle and rock her to sleep, we actually make her dependent on the “crutch,” depriving her of the opportunity to develop self-soothing skills and learn to fall asleep without outside help.
By the way, a “crutch” is not at all the same as a transitional object - say, a plush toy or a blanket - that the child chooses himself and to which he becomes attached. Most babies under seven or eight months are not capable of this - the “attachments” of very young children are mostly formed by their parents. Of course, if your baby is soothed by a favorite toy hanging in her crib, let her have it. But I am against any things you give her to calm her down. Let her find her own ways to calm down.
Develop daytime and nighttime sleep rituals. Putting your child to bed during the day and evening should always be done routinely. I can't stress enough: babies are incredible traditionalists. They prefer to know what will happen next. Research has shown that even very young children, trained to expect certain stimuli, are able to anticipate them.
Learn your baby's sleep patterns. All “recipes” for putting a baby to sleep have general disadvantage: There are no universal remedies. One thing suits one, another suits another. Yes, I offer parents a lot of general recommendations, including introducing them to the phases of falling asleep that are common to all, but I always advise them to take a close look at their child, the one and only.
The best thing to do is keep a journal of your baby's sleep. In the morning, write down when he woke up, and add notes about each day's sleep. Note when he was put to bed in the evening and what time he woke up at night. Keep a journal for four days. This is enough to understand how your child’s sleep “works,” even if it seems that there is no system to it.
For example, Marcy was convinced that her eight-month-old Dylan's naps were completely random: “He never goes to sleep at the same time, Tracy.” But after four days of keeping an observation log, she noticed that although the time varies slightly, Dylan always falls asleep briefly between 9 and 10 a.m., sleeps another 40 minutes between 12:30 and 2 p.m., and by 5 p.m. he is always very cranky and cranky. irritated and switches off for about 20 minutes. This knowledge helped Marcy plan her day and, equally important, understand her baby’s behavior and mood. Taking into account Dylan's natural biorhythms, she arranged for him daily life, providing him with the opportunity to fully rest. When he began to be capricious, she better understood what was going on and whether he wanted to sleep, and reacted faster.
The Magic Road to Happiness
Remember how Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz had to follow the yellow brick road to find someone who could help her get home? After a series of mistakes and disappointments, she finally found this helper - her own wisdom. In fact, I help parents go through the same journey. Whether your child has healthy sleep is up to you, I explain. This needs to be learned, and the learning process begins and is carried out by parents. Exactly! The baby must be taught how to fall asleep correctly. The path to healthy sleep consists of the following steps.
Create conditions for sleep. Because babies have a strong need for predictability and repetition is the mother of learning, you should do and say the same things before every nap and night. Then, at her childish level of understanding, the baby will understand: “I see, that means I’ll sleep now.” Perform the same rituals in the same order. Say something like: “Well, my joy, it’s time to bye-bye.” When carrying your baby into her room, stay calm and speak quietly. Don't forget to check if it's time to change her diaper so that nothing gets in her way. Close the curtains. At the same time, I say: “Goodbye, sunshine, I’ll see you when I sleep,” or, if it happens in the evening and it’s dark outside: “ Good night, month". I think it is wrong to put a child to sleep in the living room or kitchen. It's rude to say the least. Would you like your bed to be in the middle? trading floor and people milling around? Of course not! So the child doesn’t want this.
Catch the signals. Just like adults, babies yawn when they become tired. Yawning is a natural reaction:
A tired body does not function optimally, and the amount of oxygen reaching the brain through the lungs, heart and circulatory system is slightly reduced. A yawn allows you to “swallow” more oxygen (try to imitate a yawn, and you will feel that your breath is getting deeper). I encourage parents to respond, if possible, to the baby’s first yawn—well, at least to the third. If you miss the signs of sleepiness (see Signs It's Time for Your Baby to Bed), certain types of babies, such as mimosas, will quickly become hysterical.
Advice. To create the right mood in your child, draw his attention to the pleasant aspects of relaxation. Sleep should not seem like a punishment or struggle to him. If you say “it’s time to go to bed” or “you’re tired, you need to rest” in the same tone as they say “get out of sight, you ugly boy!”, then the child will grow up in the belief that napping during the day is like being sentenced to exile in Siberia, juvenile delinquents in order to deprive them of all pleasures.
The closer to the bedroom, the quieter the speech and the slower the movements. Adults like to read a book or watch TV before going to bed to take their mind off the worries of the day. Babies need distractions too. Before going to bed, bathing every night, and from the age of three months, massage will help the baby prepare for sleep. Even before my daytime rest, I always play a soothing lullaby. I sit with the baby in a rocking chair or on the floor for about five minutes so that she gets more tactile sensations. If you want, you can tell her a story or just whisper sweet words. However, the goal of all this is not to put the child to sleep, but to calm him down. Therefore, I immediately stop rocking the baby as soon as I see the “look into the distant distance” - the second phase of falling asleep - or notice that her eyelids droop, telling me that she is moving on to the third phase. (As for bedtime stories, it’s never too early to start, but I usually start reading aloud around six months, when the child can already sit and listen intently.)
Advice. Don't invite guests over when you put your child to bed. This is not a performance. The child wants to participate in everything. He sees the guests and knows that they came to visit him: “Wow, new faces! You can look at it and smile! So what, do mommy and daddy think I’ll fall asleep and miss all this? Well, I do not!"
First to bed, then to dreamland. Many people are sure that a child can be put to bed only when he falls asleep. This is mistake. Put the baby to bed at the beginning of the third phase - no the best way Help her learn to fall asleep on her own. There is another reason: think about how your baby feels when he falls asleep in your arms or in a rocking device, and for some reason wakes up in a crib. Imagine that I wait until you fall asleep and drag your bed out of the bedroom into the garden. You wake up and can’t understand anything: “Where am I? How did I end up here? Only, unlike you, a baby cannot conclude: “Oh, I see, someone dragged me here while I was sleeping.” The child will be disoriented, even scared. Eventually, he will no longer feel safe in his own bed.
When I put my baby in the crib, I always say the same words: “Now I’ll put you to bed, and you’ll go to sleep. You know how great it is and how wonderful you feel afterwards.” And I watch the baby closely. Before she lies down, she may become restless, especially when she shudders all over, which is characteristic of the third phase of falling asleep. There is no need to immediately pick up the child in your arms. Some children calm down on their own and fall asleep. But if the baby cries, gently and rhythmically pat her on the back - let her feel that she is not alone. However, remember: as soon as she stops fussing and whining, you need to immediately stop petting her. If you do this for longer than she really needs, she will begin to associate stroking and patting with falling asleep and will no longer be able to fall asleep without it.
Advice. I generally recommend placing the baby on his or her back. But you can also arrange it on its side, propping it up with two rolled towels or special wedge-shaped pillows, which are sold in most pharmacies. If your baby sleeps on his side, make sure the side changes.
If the road to dreamland is bumpy, give your child a pacifier. I like to use a pacifier in the first three months of a newborn's life - the period when we establish a routine. This saves the mother from having to replace the pacifier with her own presence. At the same time, I always warn that the pacifier should not be used uncontrollably - it should not turn into a “crutch”. With a reasonable approach by parents to this issue, the baby selflessly sucks for six to seven minutes, then the sucking movements slow down, and, in the end, the pacifier falls out of the mouth. The baby has already spent as much energy on sucking as is needed to relieve tension, and is safely leaving for the kingdom of sleep. At this moment, some adults with the best intentions come up with the words: “Oh, poor thing, I lost my pacifier!” - and shove it back. Do not do that! If your baby needs a pacifier so that his sleep is not interrupted, he will let you know about it - he will start whining and making gurgling sounds.
So, whenever the PASS mode takes you to the first “C”, follow the rules described above - for most babies this is enough for them to develop positive associations with sleep. Let the same familiar steps lead your baby into the land of dreams, because for him predictability means safety. You will be surprised how quickly your baby will master the skills necessary to intelligently organized sleep. She will even wait until bedtime, because it is so pleasant, and after sleep you feel much more energetic. Of course, problems cannot be avoided: for example, if the baby
is overtired, teething or has a fever (see Normal Sleep Problems). But such days will be the exception to the rule.
Remember, in order to truly fall asleep, a child needs 20 minutes, and under no circumstances try to speed things up. You'll only break natural process falls asleep, and the baby gets nervous. Let's say if loud noise, a dog barking or a slammed door - whatever - will disturb her in the third phase, she will not fall asleep, but on the contrary, she will wake up, and everything will have to start all over again. The same thing happens to adults when they are about to fall asleep and suddenly phone call breaks the silence. If a person is irritated or nervous, it can be difficult to fall back to sleep. Babies are people too! They are just as nervous, the sleep cycle starts from scratch, and you have to wait another 20 minutes for your child to fall into deep sleep.
If you missed the window
If your baby is very young and you have not had time to thoroughly study his cries and body language, it is more than likely that you will not always be able to respond to his first, second or third yawn. If you have an “angel” or a “textbook”, it’s okay - these kids just need a little attention and affection to quickly return to normal. But with other types of babies, especially mimosas, it’s useful to have a trick or two in your stash in case you missed phase one, because the baby is about to become overtired. Yes, and sudden noise or other disturbances at any time can disrupt the natural process of falling asleep, and if the baby becomes very worried, he will need your help.
First of all, I'll tell you what you should never do: don't rock. Do not walk around the room with your child, do not shake him
too energetic. Remember, he is already overstimulated. He cries because he has had enough stimulation and crying helps distract him from sounds and light. There is no need for you to further stimulate the activity of his nervous system. Moreover, this is where the formation usually begins bad habits. Mom or dad carry the child in their arms or rock them to sleep to help them fall asleep. When his weight exceeds 6.5 kg, they try to make him fall asleep without these “crutches”. Of course, the child protests, as if saying: “No, my dears, we don’t do that. You always rock me to sleep."
If you don't want to get into this vicious cycle, do the following to help your child calm down and disconnect from external stimuli.
Swaddling. After many months in the embryonic position, the newborn is not accustomed to open space. In addition, he does not yet know that his arms and legs are part of himself. An overtired baby must be placed in a motionless position, because he is terribly frightened at the sight of randomly moving limbs - it seems to him that someone else is plotting something against him. In addition, these impressions additionally load the already overexcited nervous system. Swaddling is one of the oldest techniques to help a newborn calm down. It may seem old-fashioned, but also modern Scientific research confirm its effectiveness. To properly swaddle your baby, fold a square swaddle diagonally. Place the child on the resulting triangle so that the fold is approximately at the level of his neck. Place one of the baby's arms on his chest at an angle of 45? and wrap the body tightly with the appropriate corner of the diaper. Repeat on the other side. I recommend this type of swaddling for the first six weeks of life. After the seventh week, when the baby makes his first attempts to put his hands in his mouth, you need to give him this opportunity. Bend his arms at the elbows and leave his palms uncovered, closer to his face.
Soothing touches. Let the baby know that you are nearby and always ready to help him. Pat him rhythmically on the back, simulating heartbeats. You can also repeat “sh-sh... sh-sh... sh-sh...” - this will remind your baby of the sounds he heard in the womb. In a low, soothing voice, whisper in his ear: “Everything is fine” or “You just need to sleep.” For some time after you put the baby in the crib, continue to do what you did while you were holding him in your arms - patting, whispering. The transition from your arms to your own bed will be less abrupt.
Eliminate visual irritants. Visual stimuli - light, moving objects - are painful for an overtired baby, especially for mimosa. That's why we shade the room before we put the baby in the crib, but for some babies this isn't enough. If your baby is already lying down, place your hand over his eyes—not over his eyes—to block out visual stimuli. If you are still holding him, stand motionless in semi-darkness, or with a very overexcited child, in a completely dark room.
Don't follow your child's lead. An overtired baby can be very difficult for parents to cope with. It takes endless patience and determination, especially if bad bedtime behavior has become a habit. The child whines, the parents continue to stroke him, the crying becomes louder. Overloaded with stimuli, the baby cries incessantly until he reaches a deafening cry - very clear: “I have no more strength!” Here he takes a breath, and everything begins again. Usually the crying increases three times until the child finally calms down. But already on the second try, many parents’ nerves can’t stand it, and in despair they return to the usual “medicine”, be it motion sickness, breastfeeding, or a terrible shaking chair.
This is where the problem lies. As long as you continue to intervene, your baby will need your help to fall asleep. It doesn’t take much time for a baby to develop a dependence on a “crutch” - a few times are enough, because he still has a very short memory. Get started wrong and every day you repeat your mistake will reinforce your child’s unwanted behavior. People often come to me asking for help when the child’s weight reaches 6-7 kg and shaking him in his arms becomes burdensome. The most serious problems arise when the child is one and a half to two months old. I always tell parents, “You have to understand what's going on and take responsibility for your child's bad habits because you created them. And then the most difficult thing will happen: be determined and persistently instill in your baby new, correct behavioral skills.” (See Chapter 9 for more on developing bad habits.)
Peaceful sleep until the morning
A chapter on baby sleep wouldn't be complete without talking about when babies stop waking up in the middle of the night.
Let me first remind you that your baby's “day” is 24 hours. She does not distinguish between day and night and has no idea what it means to “sleep until the morning without waking up.” This is your desire (and need). Sleeping through the night is not an innate ability, but an acquired skill. You must accustom her to this and give her an idea of the difference between day and night. To this end, I offer the following reminder tips to parents.
Be guided by the principle “as much as has gone, so much has arrived.” For example, if he was very capricious in the morning, and instead of the next feeding he sleeps for an extra half hour, you will leave him alone, knowing that he needs this rest (if he lived on a strict schedule, you would wake him up). But don't forget common sense. Do not allow your baby to sleep more than one feeding cycle during the day, i.e. more than three hours, otherwise he will not sleep at night. I guarantee: no baby who slept for six hours during the day without a break will sleep more than three hours at night. And if your child does this, you can be sure that he has confused day with night. The only way“call him to order” - wake him up, and his night sleep will come exactly as many hours as it has lost from daytime sleep.
“Fill the tank full.” It sounds rough, but in order for a baby to sleep through the night, he must have full stomach. Therefore, from the age of six weeks, I recommend the following two feedings: pair feedings - every two hours in the run-up to sleep - and a sleep feeding just before you go to bed. For example, you give your baby the breast (or bottle) at 18:00 and 20:00 and arrange “sleep” feeding at 22:30 or 23:00. During this last feeding, the baby does not wake up, so its name should be taken literally. In other words, you carefully take the baby in your arms, lightly touch her lower lip with a nipple or pacifier, and let her get enough, while your job is to try not to wake her. When she finishes sucking, avoid burping. During sleep feedings, babies are so relaxed that they do not swallow air. Remain silent. Do not change the diaper unless it is soaking wet or soiled. With these two tricks, most babies can skip the night feedings because they've consumed enough calories for five to six hours.
Advice.“Sleepy” feeding of the artificial baby can be entrusted to the dad. At this time, most men are already at home, and they usually like this assignment.
Use a pacifier. If the pacifier does not turn into a “crutch”, this is a great help in helping you skip night feedings. A baby weighing 4.5 kg or more who consumes at least 700-850 g of formula or has six to eight breastfeedings during the day (four to five during the day and two to three paired before bed) does not need another feeding among nights so as not to die of hunger. If he still wakes up, then it's all about the sucking reflex. This is where a pacifier comes in handy, if you use it correctly. Let's say your baby usually needs 20 minutes of night feeding. If he wakes up crying, demands a breast or a bottle and is content with five minutes after sucking some drops, it is better to give him a pacifier.
On the first night, he will most likely suck on it for those 20 minutes until he falls into a deep sleep. The next night, perhaps, it will cost 10 minutes, and on the third he will not wake up at all at the usual time of night feeding, but will only fidget in his sleep. If he does wake up, give him a pacifier. In other words, instead of a bottle or breast, a pacifier is quite suitable. Gradually, the baby will completely stop waking up for this.
This was exactly the case with Cody, Juliana's son. Cody weighed 6.8 kg, and Juliana, after careful observation, realized that the boy woke up at 3:00 out of habit. Cody sucked from the bottle for about 10 minutes and immediately fell asleep. Juliana asked me for a visit, first of all, to make sure that her conclusion was correct (however, from her description alone I realized that she was right). Besides, she wanted Cody to learn how to wake up at this time. I spent three nights at their house. The first night, I took Cody out of his crib and gave him a pacifier instead of a bottle, which he sucked on for 10 minutes, just like he was used to sucking on a bottle. The next night I left him in his crib, gave him a pacifier, and this time he only nursed for three minutes. On the third night, as expected, Cody whimpered a little at 3:15, but did not wake up. That's all! From that moment on, he slept peacefully until six or seven in the morning.
Don't run up to the child. A baby's sleep is intermittent, so it is unwise to respond to any sound. I often convince parents to get rid of the damned “baby monitors”, which in an amplified form convey to their ears any sigh or squeak of the baby. These things turn parents into frantic panickers! I keep repeating: you need to understand the difference between a response and a rescue operation. When parents respond to a child's needs, the child grows up confident and unafraid to explore the world. But if his parents constantly “save” him, then he becomes imbued with doubts about his abilities. He does not develop the character traits and skills necessary to explore the world and feel calm and comfortable in it.
Many mothers ask us the question “What time is it better to put a child to bed?” Let's find out!
The influence of biological rhythms on humans
Despite the fact that technological progress makes a person largely independent of natural conditions in which he lives, like any creature on the planet, he is influenced biological rhythms. The most significant of them are circadian rhythms - the change of dark and light times of day, day and night. Depending on these rhythms, a person’s physical and emotional state and intellectual capabilities change. Such changes are determined by daily fluctuations in the synthesis of certain hormones. In particular, it is the hormonal background that tells us when it is best to sleep and when to stay awake.
How does melatonin, the “sleep hormone,” work?
The sleep hormone is called the night hormone melatonin hormone. It begins to be produced in the body in the early evening, reaches peak concentrations late at night and decreases sharply in the morning. One of the useful functions of this hormone is to regulate the duration and change of sleep phases. It is with the onset of melatonin synthesis, approximately in the third or fourth month of a child’s life, that the appearance of deep and very deep subphases of slow-wave sleep in the sleep structure, and the “launch” biological clock. Before this, the baby lives rather in the rhythm of feedings.
Melatonin causes sleepiness in dark time days. Under its influence, all processes slow down, body temperature drops slightly, blood glucose levels drop and all the muscles of the body relax a little. If you go to bed at this moment, it will be very easy to fall asleep, and your sleep will be as deep and restful as possible.
The moment when melatonin is present in the blood in a concentration sufficient to fall asleep is what we conventionally call the “sleep window.” The “sleep window” will tell you what time to put your child to bed so that he gets a long and quality sleep. For the vast majority of children from the age of 3 months to approximately 5-6 years, this favorable moment for falling asleep is in the range of 18.30-20.30. The “sleep window” can last several minutes or half an hour - it all depends on the child’s temperament, the development of his nervous system and physical condition.
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What if we missed the sleep window?
If the baby does not go to bed at this time, the synthesis of melatonin is suspended, and instead of it, the stress hormone cortisol enters the blood. Its main function is to maintain vigor. Cortisol increases blood pressure, causes a rush of blood to the muscles, aggravates the reaction rate, and at the same time it is quite slowly eliminated from the body. The excited state persists throughout the night. A child who goes to bed later than the time that is convenient for his body from a biological point of view, falls asleep more difficult, with protests and tears, and subsequently sleeps superficially and restlessly. If you have a tendency to wake up at night, then if you go to bed late, your baby will wake up especially often. Our grandmothers and mothers often call the effect of cortisol with the household word “overnight.” And indeed, a child who has “overstayed” his “sleep window” is very active and difficult to put to sleep.
What time do you put your child to bed?
So, from birth to approximately 3-4 months Until the synthesis of melatonin is established, the baby can be put to bed at night when the mother goes to bed - for example, at 22-23 hours.
But, starting from the age of 3-4 months, we highly recommend finding out your child’s “sleep window” and putting him to bed at this favorable moment, starting all getting ready for bed at least 30-40 minutes.
How can you determine what time to put your child to bed?
To determine the "sleep window":
1. Watch. At the same time in the evening (somewhere between 18.30 and 20.30), the baby will show signs of being ready to sleep: he will rub his eyes, lie down on the sofa or chair, yawn, and slow down his movements. Coordination of movements may be impaired. The gaze stops for seconds and becomes directed “to nowhere.” It is this moment that will show the mother what time to put the baby to bed. It is at this moment that the child should already be in bed, well-fed, washed, and having listened to a fairy tale.
This state can last for several minutes, then the baby will experience something like a “second wind.” This may result in unnaturally increased activity or unusual excitability or moodiness. In any case, such a surge of vigor will mean that the “sleep window” has been missed.
It can be difficult to notice the signs of readiness for sleep. They may be subtle, and bright light and noisy environments only help the child hide them. In this case:
2. Calculate convenient time. Normal night sleep duration for children from 3 months to 5-6 years 10-11.5 hours. At the same time, small children, as a rule, wake up early - no later than 7.30. If you subtract the age-recommended length of sleep at night from the usual time of awakening, you will get exactly the approximate moment for ideal falling asleep.
3. Finally, just pick up exact good time, shifting bedtime by 15-30 minutes every 2-3 days and remembering (or writing down) how long it took the child to fall asleep and whether the night passed peacefully.
In any case, if your child falls asleep crying, most likely you are putting him to bed later than necessary. Analyze his regime and perhaps the next day put your child to bed earlier, start rituals 15 minutes earlier.
Changes in daily routine.
It is important not to forget that before starting a night's sleep, the baby must be awake and tired enough for his age. Therefore, when the regime shifts to the earlier side, it is desirable day dreams Also, accordingly, shift and gently wake the child if he sleeps for too long during the last nap of the day. At some point, it is better to completely abandon extra daytime sleep if it becomes difficult to put the child to bed at the right time after it. As a rule, children are ready to completely give up the 4th nap at the age of 4 months, the 3rd nap at 7-9 months, and the 2nd nap after 15-18 months.
Sleep patterns need to be adjusted as you get older. As a rule, after refusing one of day dreams, it is advisable to shift the child’s bedtime at night 30-60 minutes earlier. But at the same time, if at normal times for several days the child is cheerful, calm, and does not demonstrate readiness to sleep, and once in bed he cannot fall asleep for a long time, it is quite possible that the time has come to put him to bed 30 minutes later.
In anticipation of our first child, we collect his dowry, set up a nursery, and learn to relax during labor. And rarely does anyone think about the questions baby sleep: how long it should be, how to avoid hours of motion sickness, etc. The result is that young mothers are like wet salt: they don’t get enough sleep. And they perceive this as the norm, but in vain. After all, there are a number of tools that will help manage your child’s sleep.
Olga Semenyuk, operational director of the BabySleep Center for Children's Sleep and Development, and a consultant on children's sleep, spoke about them at the seminar "10 Rules for Healthy Children's Sleep", held at the capital's family center "Ba-Buu".
Olga Semenyuk. Children's sleep director
ASSISTANTS: HORMONE, NOISE AND SLEEPY FRIEND
The conductor of sleep in our body is the hormone melatonin. He's a spoiled guy. So, it needs serotonin, which we get from the amino acid tryptophan. It is found, in particular, in dairy, fish, and meat products. The second point: in order for a child to sleep well in the dark, he must be in the light for sufficient time. But the most important condition is pitch darkness in the bedroom, because melatonin is destroyed under the influence of light. So let your night light sleep with you. Turn it on only when needed.
But often, even without lamps, apartments are light at night: streetlights and car headlights do their job. This is where blackout curtains come to the rescue: they will not allow a single ray of light to penetrate your room until you want it. They are needed not only for the production of melatonin, but also so that the whole family can get enough sleep on a summer morning, when the sun rises early and wakes up the baby. By the way, so that during your vacation you don’t wake up at 5 a.m. hotel room If you don't have blackout curtains or blinds, grab some foil or large black bags and stick them on the windows. This homemade product will also help put your child to bed at 20:00-21:00, when the lights of the hotel disco are shining outside the window.
And if at the same time you still have problems with sound insulation, noise will come to the rescue. White or pink. The first is a smooth background noise, reminiscent of the sound of a mother's womb. This could be a recording of rain, the flow of a mountain river, etc. Both white and pink noise contain frequencies that our ears can detect. But the signal strength is different. For white, it is the same at all frequencies. And with pink, as the frequency increases, the signal power decreases. What does it mean? In pink noise, low sounds are more intense and louder than high sounds. An example would be the sound of a helicopter flying by. You will immediately recognize pink noise by ear. It is lower, deeper than white. We just follow the safety rules: the sound source should be no closer than a meter from the child’s head and its volume should not exceed 50 decibels. Create, for example, White noise Maybe a hairdryer, but the program on the phone is more convenient. For example, you know that at 7:00 construction starts outside your window. In order not to run to close it, give the command to the phone to start making noise right time.
From 6 months you can give your child a “sleepy friend”. It is important that he does not play with it during the day. To do this, come up with some kind of story: let the baby know that when he hugs his “Snowflake”, a dream will come to him.
TO UPLOAD OR NOT TO UPLOAD?
Knowing one simple fact opens your eyes to the process of going to bed. We all wake up during the night during sleep cycles. Adults, as a rule, do not feel these mini-wake-ups. Kids are another matter: they need the situation in which they fell asleep to be recreated. That is, if your baby doll falls asleep sweetly on your chest, then at night you will have to give it to him, not because he is hungry, but because that is the nature of his sleep.
Accordingly, if you rocked him to sleep before bed, you will have to repeat this in the middle of the night. So, “to pump or not to pump?” - obviously. But the question arises: what to do when midnight is approaching, but there is still no sleep. Baby sleeper consultants answer: catch the window in sleepy kingdom.
MISSION IS POSSIBLE - CAPTURE THE WINDOW INTO DREAM
Experts have calculated how long a child of a certain age should sleep and how long he should stay awake. To catch the sleep window, that is, the time when it will be easiest to put him to sleep (it can be only 5-15 minutes), you need to know his wake time (WT).
The smaller the baby, the shorter it will be. For example, in newborns it can be only 40 minutes. This WB needs to be divided into two phases. The first is the time for all kinds of activities, gymnastics, going to the pool, etc. The second is the period when you need to let the child’s nervous system slow down and tune in to sleep (remember that inhibitory processes mature in different children at different times (5-7 years), so from the state of a fight in the sandbox to put small child you won't be able to for a very long time).
Eco-friendly parenting: Do you notice a sudden burst of activity in your child in the evening? Does your child suddenly become very active, noisy, and sometimes uncontrollable? Despite the late hour, it seems that he will now start running along the walls and what, but he definitely doesn’t want to sleep?
It’s worth complaining that your baby can’t fall asleep for a long time in the evening, and someone will definitely advise you to put him to bed later and give him a good run before bed. This advice is good for an adult, but not suitable for a child.
What to do if your child doesn’t want to sleep on time
Circadian rhythms
The functioning of our entire body is tuned to certain natural rhythms. All life on Earth, including humans, is subordinate to them.
These rhythms are called circadian and are based on a 24-hour cycle. The stability of circadian rhythms is facilitated not only by light factors, but also by hormones produced in our body with a certain cyclicity.
The natural rhythms of young children are tuned to early morning awakening and, accordingly, early bedtime for a night's sleep. By this time, the body produces all the hormones necessary for falling asleep, a kind of “natural sleeping pill.”
Emergency situation
What happens if a person (in this case, it doesn’t matter whether a child or an adult) does not go to bed at the “proper” time?
Our brain, like hundreds of years ago, proceeds from the fact that "something happened". And he, in general, no matter what it is: a flood, an attack by wild animals or enemies - or just a tablet with toys.
It is important that the situation is regarded as “force majeure”, and the brain begins to carry out new task- don't sleep. And don't want to sleep. And now new hormones are being produced that help with just this.
"Second wind"
You've probably experienced this feeling: I seemed to want to sleep, and even really wanted to. You drank tea, sat in front of the TV, did some housework... And we discovered that we didn’t want to sleep at all!
These are the same hormones that come into play that help you not want to sleep. And until their effect wears off, it will be very difficult to fall asleep.
The same thing happens in children. If you do not put the baby to bed on time, at a time when his body is ready to fall asleep (we call this the “window to sleep”), then the child will “overnight” and difficulties in falling asleep are guaranteed.
What does it look like
Do you notice a sharp surge in activity in your child in the evening? Does your child suddenly become very active, noisy, and sometimes uncontrollable? Despite the late hour, it seems that he will now start running along the walls and what, but he definitely doesn’t want to sleep? Most likely, the “window to sleep” was missed. Now, indeed, it will be difficult to put the child to bed until the child “falls from fatigue.”
Such wakefulness occurs due to the reserves of the body in general and the nervous system in particular. It’s not a big deal if this happens from time to time to a child who generally gets enough sleep. But if it happens constantly, it not only harms the child and his development, but also leads to the consolidation of a bad habit.
What to do?
If you recognize your situation and would like to change it, it is worth changing your child's bedtime. It is important that preparation for bed is completed before the onset of evening activity. If by the time your baby goes to bed he is calm and relaxed, and you learn to accurately hit the “sleep window,” your baby will fall asleep much easier and faster.
To determine your sleep window, remember(or better yet, write it down to be safe) time at which you usually observe a child's sudden agitation. Some time before this moment, you can see signs of the child’s fatigue - start styling immediately!
It is best to organize your day so that by the time signs of tiredness appear, both you and your child are completely ready to go to bed.
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness, we are changing the world together! © econet
Why do you dream about a window?
Miller's Dream Book
Seeing windows in a dream is a harbinger of the fatal end of brilliant hopes. You will see your most wonderful enterprise fail, leaving you in despair. Your lot will be fruitless endeavors.
Seeing closed windows is an image of abandonment.
If they are broken, you will be haunted by miserable suspicions of infidelity.
Sitting on the window means that you will be a victim of stupidity, thoughtlessness, and recklessness.
Entering a house through a window means that you will be caught using dishonest means to achieve a seemingly noble goal.
Running through a window means that you will find yourself in trouble, which will mercilessly squeeze you in its grip.
Looking out the window while passing by and seeing strange things foretells that you will fail in your chosen endeavor and lose the respect for which you risked your health and well-being.
Why do you dream about a window?
Freud's Dream Book
If you dreamed that you were looking out the window, this means that in reality you often isolate yourself from your partner, become isolated if something didn’t turn out the way you wanted. In this way, you hope to keep your relationship intact. Understand that by doing this you are causing irreparable harm to this very relationship and your role in it, in particular. You cannot bear the entire burden and take on all the responsibility for what is happening. If you want to keep your relationship harmonious, divide everything in half and solve all problems together.
Breaking a window in a dream means that in reality, intimate affairs will someday greatly complicate your life and you will be faced with a whole bunch of problems that will not be easy to solve overnight.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of Hasse
The window is closed - courage will lead you to your goal; climbing through an open window is an untimely undertaking; look out - get news; window on the roof - well-being.
Why do you dream about a window?
Family dream book
A window is usually dreamed of as a harbinger of the end of brilliant hopes. No matter how your wonderful enterprise collapses! At the very least, be prepared for the fact that your endeavors will not bear the expected fruits.
Closed windows are an image of abandonment.
Broken windows foreshadow pathetic suspicions of infidelity directed at you.
If in a dream you were sitting on a window, you may become a victim of stupidity or recklessness.
If you climbed into the house through a window, you will be caught cheating.
They fled through the window - as if trouble would happen.
If you looked into someone's window while passing by and saw strange things - you may fail and lose the respect of others.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of Dmitry and Nadezhda Zima
A window in a dream symbolizes contact with the outside world. Most often, such dreams indicate that some extraneous events can distract your attention or even throw you off balance. Looking out of a window in a dream and observing some events or objects is a hint of circumstances that may hinder you or force you to switch to other things.
Bright light outside the windows in a dream is a sign of very bright events.
The darkness outside the windows usually suggests that you are too withdrawn into yourself and your problems.
Seeing a gaze directed at you outside the windows portends someone’s interference in your affairs, which could confuse your plans.
Looking into other people's windows yourself is a sign of disappointment. Perhaps you will find yourself drawn into other people's problems, or your plans will lead to a completely different result than the one you expected.
Climbing into someone else's window means the possibility of getting involved in an unwanted story.
Climbing out through a window in a dream means that extraneous events can completely confuse you, putting you in an extremely difficult and dangerous situation.
Why do you dream about a window?
The newest dream book of G. Ivanov
Opening a window means a surge of new strength.
Looking out the window means waiting for important news; peeking out the window means possessing someone else's secret.
Knock on the window - maybe surgical disease.
Why do you dream about a window?
Spring dream book
Looking out the window - towards the guests.
A window hammered crosswise means death.
Why do you dream about a window?
Summer dream book
Seeing a lighted window in a dream means hope.
Looking out the window - waiting for the children to return from school.
Why do you dream about a window?
Autumn dream book
Seeing a window open in an apartment means the openness of your soul.
Looking out the window means the return of your loved one.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation from A to Z
Seeing closed windows in a dream means you will achieve your goal in a roundabout way and not always by honest means. Open windows mean that you will soon receive an invitation to a house where you have long wanted to go. An open window in a window portends an unexpected danger that cannot be avoided.
Getting into a room through a window means a sad outcome of your business activity, when expenses significantly exceed income.
Entering the house or leaving through an unlocked window - gather your courage and start all over again.
If in a dream you wash windows, it means that you will make a mistake by refusing a lucrative offer, which at first seems unpromising to you. Sitting on the windowsill with your legs dangling outside means in reality you will act stupidly and recklessly, trying to look independent and independent.
Leaning out of the window portends receiving long-awaited news. Falling out of a window means you are in danger of being robbed or robbed.
A dream in which you are fleeing through a window - in reality you will be caught in illegal actions to achieve a goal that seems quite decent at first glance.
Dark windows mean that you will get into trouble and will not receive the support promised if the risky undertaking you decide to undertake for the money you need so much fails.
Light in the windows is a sign of hope for a better future that is just around the corner. Windows closed with shutters - you will be suspected of infidelity.
Boarded up windows of an abandoned house mean an interrupted romance and separation due to circumstances beyond your control.
Looking into other people's windows in a dream means they will no longer trust you, because you will compromise yourself with a dishonest act.
A dormer window in the attic means the successful completion of an unsuccessful business.
Window from the basement - you will experience hardship.
Seeing curtains on the windows in a dream foreshadows an unexpected visit that will cause you a lot of anxiety; curtains are a nuisance from people to whom you have done a good deed.
A broken window is a threat that can be carried out quite quickly and in the worst case scenario.
Inserting new glass into windows means bright changes in life.
Making window putty means annoying surprises.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of Simon Kananita
Window - Melancholy, boredom - closed - the road will lead you to your goal - climb through an open window - untimely undertaking - look out the window - get news - window on the roof - well-being
Why do you dream about a window?
Esoteric dream book
There are many windows - from the inside the world of the soul and its high spaces.
Obstructed ones are hidden spiritual secrets; one must make an effort to reveal them. A wide open invitation to break away from earthly affairs and turn your attention to the “high” world.
The view from the window is what is happening in a subtle way.
Looking out the window, being outside, looking into the depths of consciousness - you will see something that relates to the subconscious, the psyche.
Windows are round, oval, semi-oval - you have a “channel” of clairaudience. We need to use it.
Climbing through a window means showing self-will and excessive persistence in spiritual knowledge.
Breaking a window means breaking through the line between the subtle and dense worlds, breaking out into the vastness of the soul.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream interpretation of a modern woman
A window in a dream foreshadows the collapse of hopes, despair as a result of the death of an enterprise that is important to you. Your lot will be fruitless endeavors.
Closed windows are a symbol of abandonment.
If they are broken, you will be suspected of infidelity.
Sitting on a window in a dream means in reality becoming a victim of stupidity, thoughtlessness, and recklessness.
Why do you dream about a window?
Azar's Dream Book
Window - to news from afar.
Closed window - you will achieve your goal thanks to courage and bravery.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of Evgeniy Tsvetkov
Window - waiting; wide open - regret; knock it out and go outside - the fulfillment of desires.
Why do you dream about a window?
Modern dream book
Dreaming about windows is an unfavorable omen. It foretells the collapse of cherished hopes, and your innermost desires will be replaced by despair. Fruitless aspirations will become your lot.
Seeing closed windows in a dream is a symbol of abandonment.
If the windows are broken, you will suffer from low suspicions of infidelity with which those you love will haunt you.
Sitting on a window foretells that you will become a victim of your envy and reckless behavior.
Entering a house through a window is a harbinger that you will be caught using dishonest means to achieve goals that seem noble to you.
Running away through a window means that you will get into trouble, which will mercilessly drive you into a corner.
If you dream that while passing by windows you look in and see strange figures, in reality you will fail in your chosen profession and lose the respect for which you risked your health and well-being.
Looking into the windows of someone else's apartment and seeing absolutely incredible things there foretells that you will fail in some business and lose the respect for which you risked your health and well-being.
Why do you dream about a window?
Eastern dream book
Closed windows in your house - dream of turmoil in the soul and attacks of self-criticism; opening the window from the room to the street means a quick meeting of unexpected but pleasant guests.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Book of Schiller-Schoolboy
open - melancholy; closed - boredom.
Why do you dream about a window?
Noble dream book by N. Grishina
Looking out the window means calm, peace, a safe situation.
Breaking a window means trouble.
Seeing bars on the window means separation.
When inserting glass into a window, take precautions.
Looking through the broken, cracked one, we must continue the fight, despite the failure.
Seeing an empty window frame is a mockery / yours intimate life will become the subject of gossip.
Seeing stained glass in your windows means trying in vain to isolate yourself in the world of beauty or religion.
Close the window carefully - unclear concerns / some damage.
Opening is an expectation that seems hopeless.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream book of healer Akulina
You dreamed of a Window - You will achieve your goal. Imagine opening a window and letting fresh air into the room.
Why do you dream about a window?
The window is a symbol of the feminine, like most parts of the house. For a man it can also mean a desire to win.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of Vrublevskaya
Window - a look out the window from inside the house reflects a view of the world, an outlook, and a search for opportunities. Looking out the window of a house from the street side shows a desire to get to know someone or something better.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream book of yogis
The window is one of the channels connecting the crown with the higher planes. You saw at this level what was happening.
Why do you dream about a window?
Folklore dream book
A bird knocking or beating on a window means big trouble.
Why do you dream about a window?
Modern dream book
Open window - Boredom; closed - boredom
Why do you dream about a window?
British dream book
Window - Windows allow light into a room. They also allow us to look outside and people on the street to see inside. Why dream: Windows can indicate vision, looking out or in, trying to become invisible. They can mean importunity or the habit of spying on others. See also Eyes, ; Vision, ; Curtains, curtains, blinds
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of Artemidor
You dreamed of a Window - For a woman - A dream on Monday night means that a pleasant and useful acquaintance awaits you; and on the night of Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday, it means that you will learn good news; dreamed on the night of Saturday or Sunday - it means receiving a gift or money. For a man, a dream on Monday night means that you will learn a lot of news from a not very reliable source; if you had a dream on the night of Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday, the dream warns that you are showing excessive distrust; and on the night of Saturday or Sunday, he says that you need to consult with knowledgeable people before making a decision. Close the window. For a woman, a dream on Monday night means that you will refuse to do something you don’t like; if you had a dream on the night of Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday, it means that you will not pay attention to a timely warning about the danger that threatens you; and on the night of Saturday or Sunday - he will mistakenly refuse a lucrative offer. For a man - A dream on Monday night says that you showed reasonable caution; dreamed on the night of Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday, it means that someone is watching your actions; Seen on the night of Saturday or Sunday, this dream advises you to wait a little and not make any important decisions in the coming days. Looking into other people's windows. For a woman - a dream on Monday night means that you will learn other people's secrets; dreamed on the night of Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday, it warns that you will have to go to a place you have never been to; seen on the night of Saturday or Sunday, this dream says that you are about to take on a difficult task without sufficient preparation. For a man - a dream on Monday night means trouble for your good friends; seen on the night of Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday, the dream means that you will have to turn to someone for help; and on the night of Saturday or Sunday - a dream means that you accidentally learn things that will bring you nothing but anxiety. See something unusual in the window. For a woman - A dream on Monday night means that you will witness unexplained phenomenon; and on the night of Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday, foreshadows an acquaintance with an unusual person; a dream seen on Saturday or Sunday night predicts imminent changes. For a man, a dream on Monday night means that you will witness a strange incident; and on the night of Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday, this dream means that you are overtired and need rest; Seen on the night of Saturday or Sunday, this dream advises you to wait a little and not make any important decisions in the coming days. Throw a stone at the window For a boy - trying to free himself from the control of his parents, teachers or someone else. For an adult man - to decide on a risky business. For a girl - to experience resentment and humiliation. For adult woman- try to find protection and support.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of A. Mindell
You dreamed of a Window - you see a window in a dream - you can be sure after such a dream: your hopes will never come true. You dream of a closed window - any business that you start, you will be able to finish barely halfway and then abandon it - either you will grow cold, or circumstances will force you to do so; your normal state is boredom. You dream of an open window - you will feel regret. You see a broken window - you will actually be tormented by jealousy. It’s as if you’re sitting in the window with your legs dangling from the windowsill - you’ve never looked so much like a clown as you will look like in the near future; you will either commit stupidity yourself, or others will commit it, but in any case you will be the victim of stupidity; someone, through thoughtlessness, will put you in an ambiguous position. It’s as if you are climbing into the house through a window - you will be caught in something unworthy or caught in some dishonest action; The best way out for you is to give up everything and be alone for a little while. It’s as if you are escaping through a window - some kind of misfortune will happen to you - it will directly relate to the business you are busy with.
Why do you dream about a window?
Psychoanalytic dream book
What does a Window mean in a dream? The windows give different ways see the world we live in and how we perceive reality. Looking out of the window means that we think of ourselves as extroverts and try to pay attention exclusively to external circumstances. Looking out the window at what's inside means we're looking inward at our own personality and perhaps the motivation behind our actions. The interpretation of opening a window depends on whether we do it from the inside or. outside. In the first case, we are dealing with our inner feelings, which may need to be avoided. In the second, with a reaction to outside opinions. Breaking through a window (through a glass door) means the first sexual experience. Stained glass window glass, due to its association with churches, as well as stained window glass, can be taken as a religious belief (see also Colors).
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of the Sorceress Medea
Window - A look from the window of a house - a look at the outside world, a search for opportunities. Looking out the window from the street is a desire to better understand oneself or another. The beautiful view outside the window is something good things are nearby with you, but separated by some obstacle. A blank wall outside the window - loneliness and melancholy will overwhelm you.
Why do you dream about a window?
Russian dream book
What do Windows mean in a dream - the size of the windows shows the breadth of your horizons and openness to the outside world(if the windows are open).
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream book of E. Ericson
What does a Window mean in a dream - waiting for a decision, an open window - news from afar. Opening the window means taking advantage of numerous opportunities. Climbing through a window - commit amazing deed, unexpected for everyone. An open window in the window means trust in a person who does not know how to keep secrets. Seeing a silhouette in a window from the street is a future acquaintance. Talking through a window is a rare communication with other people. Closing the window means being careful while achieving your goal. Looking out the window - getting news. Roof window - future prosperity.
Why do you dream about a window?
Women's dream book
Window - A window in a dream foreshadows the collapse of hopes, despair as a result of the death of an enterprise that is important to you. Your lot will be fruitless endeavors.
Closed windows are a symbol of abandonment. If they are broken, you will be suspected of infidelity.
Sitting on a window in a dream means in reality becoming a victim of stupidity, thoughtlessness, and recklessness.
Entering a house through a window means being caught using dubious means to achieve a supposedly noble goal.
Running through the window is a sign of impending disaster, which will mercilessly squeeze you in its grip.
Looking out the window while passing someone's house and seeing strange things there is a sign of failure in something important to you, of losing the respect of others, for which you risked your health and well-being.
Why do you dream about a window?
Housewife's Dream Interpretation
Window - a view of life. Looking out of the window is an attempt to find a solution to the problem; climbing out of the window - a desire to avoid difficult experiences; looking out the window - self-esteem or assessment of others; climb out the window - inner feelings; open the window - show your feelings; lack of windows - reluctance to see what is happening around; self-focus; entering the house through a window is an unconventional solution to the problem; to get into someone's soul; entrance to other worlds; closed windows - do not let anyone into your inner world; feeling of abandonment; sit on the window - go with the flow; uncertainty; the situation outside the window looks hostile - the confidence that life will deceive you and your desires will not come true.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of Dashka
in the subconscious, a window is associated with a way out of a situation, sometimes with last hope. stand in front open window, a symbol of changes in life; if you are looking for a way out, and there is only a window in front of you, then there are fewer and fewer opportunities to change the situation; window with broken glass, a symbol of spiritual anguish and disappointment.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of Cleopatra
In the human subconscious, a window is associated with an exit or the beginning of something. In some cases, a window appears in a dream as a last chance or hope. The birth and death of a person are associated with this symbol.
A dream in which you are standing in front of an open window symbolizes change and the beginning of a new life period.
If in a dream you are trying to find a way out and see only a window, this is a sign that you have less and less chances to change the situation.
Seeing yourself standing at someone else's window means unexpected financial expenses due to the treachery of your imaginary friend, whose goal is to bring you to complete ruin.
Seeing a closed window in a dream is a sign that you will encounter an unexpected obstacle on your way.
A dream in which you wash dirty windows, means that your hard work will bring you success and prosperity.
Seeing a silhouette in a window means that something mysterious or enigmatic will happen to you in real life.
If you are trying to climb into the house through a window, in reality you will spend your time fun and carefree.
Talking to a loved one through a window in a dream is a sign that you will not be able to find mutual understanding with the person with whom all your feelings, hopes and thoughts are connected.
Why do you dream about a window?
Psychotherapeutic dream book
Seeing a window in a dream is a symbol of a situation in which self-realization is possible. The desire to escape from the situation. Waiting for change and cleansing. Female genitalia, this is what the interpreter says about the essence of the dream you are dreaming.
Why do you dream about a window?
Mayan Dream Interpretation
Good meaningIf you dreamed of a closed window, in currently You are in complete safety. To make this period last as long as possible, place a small pebble near each window.
Bad meaning: If you dreamed of an open window, then someone brazenly wants to break into your life. For the immediate future, keep your windows and doors closed at home.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream book of catchphrases
WINDOW - “window to the world”, “to open a window to Europe” - to go beyond the limited; "Wait by the window."
Why do you dream about a window?
Italian dream book Meneghetti
It means an open situation in which a person can still realize himself.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of Shuvalova
It symbolizes the desire to get a solution to a certain problem (shed light on the problem), the desire to wriggle out, to convince oneself from an unsuccessful situation (to escape through a window), to relieve oneself of guilt. The window is also a symbol of a situation when you still have opportunities for self-realization, they are not closed, and you can manage to use them for your own benefit.
Why do you dream about a window?
Old Russian dream book
expectation; open - regret.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream book of the future
The window is open, or you open it - sadness, melancholy or a harbinger of the fatal end of brilliant hopes; the window is closed, or you close it - to an imminent illness.
Why do you dream about a window?
Idiomatic dream book
“Window to the world”, “to open a window to Europe” - to go beyond the limited; “wait by the window” - waiting for something in reality.
Why do you dream about a window?
Italian psychoanalytic dream book by A. Roberti
Window - can be interpreted in terms of the function of a window in real life. A symbol of the desire to get a solution to a certain problem (shed light on the problem), the desire to wriggle out, to escape from an unsuccessful situation (to escape through a window), to relieve the feeling of guilt (clearing the air).
The window is often a symbol of a situation still open for self-realization.
Very often, a window symbolizes female genitalia and therefore it is possible to interpret this image in connection with the fear of sexual interaction. The appearance of this image is significant even on metaphorical level.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream book of relationships
A dream in which you look out the window speaks of an attempt to isolate yourself from your partner. You believe that the relationship will last longer if, if sex fails, you do not discuss anything with your partner. However, such an opinion is wrong. The fact is that omissions can cause irreparable harm to a relationship. You take full responsibility, however, if something goes wrong in your intimate life, both partners are to blame. Solve problems not separately, but together.
A dream in which you break a window symbolizes problems in personal life, which will affect parties not related to intimate relationships. It will be very difficult for you to cope with troubles.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream interpretation horoscope
The light in the window is the end of a long separation from a loved one.
Why do you dream about a window?
Online dream book
According to the dream book, a window is a sign that your plans are not destined to come true, which will make you pretty upset.
If it is closed, you will feel lonely and unclaimed.
It opened under a strong gust of wind - quite significant changes are happening around you, but you don’t seem to care.
To see a lighted window - you are optimistic about tomorrow, and for good reason.
If you dream of a window without glass - now you especially need the care and assistance of family and friends; alone you cannot withstand the onslaught of problems that have piled up.
If it is tightly closed with shutters, you will be accused of treason.
You pass through it into the room - in order to realize your ambitious plans, you will resort to dirty methods, for which you will pay later.
A dream in which you see a broken window - due to unreasonable attacks of jealousy of your chosen one, you will be plunged into despair.
If you break into someone’s house, you will be involved in a very dubious adventure, the consequences of which will be disastrous for you.
Sitting on the windowsill is a warning that you should control your emotions so as not to become their hostage and get yourself into trouble.
If there is no light in them, in order to improve your financial situation, decide on desperate measures and suffer a serious failure, the consequences of which you will have to cope with alone, even though you were promised assistance.
If it is located in an abandoned building and is boarded up, this is a harbinger of the end of your current relationship for some objective reason.
The window you open is a symbol of your faith in positive changes that should happen in the near future.
Window frame - portends that you will become the object of everyone's evil jokes, especially your qualities as a lover will be discussed.
Inserting new glass into frames marks the beginning of a new stage in life, in which there is only room for joy and happiness.
To paint frames - you have to throw dust in someone's eyes, hide the truth behind some fictitious story, live by the motto: not to be, but to appear.
According to the dream book, climbing out the window - be careful, carefully consider your every step, otherwise you will make an unforgivable mistake.
According to the dream book, new windows foreshadow events that will transform your life; joy and success await you.
If the window is open in a dream, you are about to go on a very exciting journey that will give you a lot of pleasant impressions and new acquaintances; you will also never be left without support; there will always be reliable and trusted people nearby.
A dream in which you saw a broken window warns that someone will slander you, and this will give your significant other a reason to accuse you of infidelity; you will have to prove that this is not true.
If in a dream you look out the window, this is a reflection of your desire to hush up problems, avoid solving them, believing that this way your couple will avoid quarrels and separation, but in fact, by doing this you are only alienating your chosen one.
If you dreamed about dirty or faulty windows, this is a bad omen, promising you despondency, dreary loneliness and retribution for mistakes made, so try now to do everything possible to prevent this from happening.
Washing windows in a dream - know that sudden difficulties will prevent you from realizing your plans, but do not doubt your abilities, you will cope with everything in the best possible way.
If in a dream you close the window, it means a forced severance of a once very sincere friendly relationship that you will miss.
Accidentally falling out of a window in a dream means you will soon go on a trip that someone else will organize for you, and which will become a turning point in your life.
Jumping out of a window in a dream - in the near future your life will change dramatically, you will achieve everything you can only dream of, your abilities and merits will be appreciated.
In a dream, you knock on a window - be prepared for the fact that a fairly large mass may fall on you. serious problems, which will affect your health, but do not despair, but accept this challenge with dignity.
If you dream that you are trying to climb out of a window, something will happen before your eyes that will radically change your worldview and way of life.
Changing windows in a dream - try to find some new, non-standard solution to the problems that have arisen, otherwise you will not be able to cope with them.
Why do you dream about a window?
Universal dream book
Window - If someone tries to impress you without making much effort, is that person showing off? Perhaps there is an indecisive person in your circle who is superior to you only because he knows how to look at things from all sides.
To see things from different points and have a complete understanding of what is happening, it is better to take a seat by the window.
Why do you dream about a window?
American dream book
Window - a look into the future or past.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpretation of Health
Seeing a window means the need to look at the world with different eyes; an open window - to a possible disease, often infectious; for a man it can mean the reciprocity of a woman in sexual feeling, especially if she is in the window.
Why do you dream about a window?
Egyptian dream book of pharaohs
If a person sees himself looking out of a window in a dream, it means that his call will be heard by his god.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream book of lovers
If you dream about windows, this promises a fatal end to the feelings that have flared up. Perhaps your chosen one will leave you or you will be separated from your loved one.
Closed windows - dream of loneliness and infidelity.
A dream in which you climb into a house through a window means that you will try to deceive your loved one.
Sitting on a window in a dream portends committing a stupid act, because of which you will lose the love of your chosen one.
Why do you dream about a window?
Russian dream book
Window - pleasant dates.
Why do you dream about a window?
Russian dream book
In the subconscious, a window is associated with a way out of a situation, sometimes with the last hope.
Standing in front of an open window is a symbol of changes in life; if you are looking for a way out, and there is only a window in front of you, it means that there are fewer and fewer opportunities to change the situation; a window with broken glass is a symbol of spiritual anguish and disappointment.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream Interpreter of 1829
Seeing an open window is a sign of the bad state of family affairs; to see a closed window means good condition affairs; climbing out the window - foreshadows bankruptcy; falling into it portends an unprofitable lawsuit.
Why do you dream about a window?
Psychoanalytic dream book of V. Samokhvalov
The window is a symbol of a situation in which self-realization is possible. The desire to escape from the situation. Waiting for change and cleansing. Female genitalia.
Open the window - providing an outlet for passion, escape. Female genitalia.
Breaking a window or glass door means losing your virginity.
A window with stained glass is an event in life.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream book for a bitch
Window - brilliantly started things will lead nowhere.
Why do you dream about a window?
Dream book of the 21st century
Seeing an open window in a dream means a gift or profit.
Falling from it means a major quarrel, leading to a fight; a closed window is a harbinger of boredom.
If in a dream you look out the window, such a dream promises you peace, peace, a safe situation; you crawl out of it or fall - to failure from a frivolous undertaking, to a quarrel, careless interference in other people's affairs, a secret that can easily be discovered.
Seeing bars on a window means separation.
Inserting glass into a window is a sign that you should take precautions.
If you see a window frame in a dream, it means ridicule of you, your intimate life will become the subject of gossip and gossip.
If you dreamed that the wind was throwing open a window during the day, this means that you do not notice changes in life.
The curtains on the window are burning - to a rapid turn of events.
Sealing a window for the winter, closing it with a thick curtain is a harbinger of everyday storms, the need to take precautions.
Being at an open window in a room and being afraid that someone will break in means experiencing fear of the future.
If a woman climbs into the window - to a new hobby (in both men's and women's dreams).
Seeing a window in a cobweb, looking through the cracks of a shutter onto the street means feeling spiritual loneliness due to a secluded lifestyle.
Sometimes you can see in the windows what is actually not there - perhaps it’s time to overcome your insecurities and feel the rhythm of life in your own skin, and not watch it pass by.
If the opposite is true, and the pastoral scene outside your window turns out to be an alarming reality, you may feel that life is deceptive and does not always deliver on its promises.
A window can be the beginning of a passage from this world to another. Dreams of this nature are common among those who engage in astral projection or develop a sense of detachment from the bustle of the world.
Windows of this kind can open up realities for you into which you can potentially immerse yourself. Do you open a window in a dream, walk past it without even looking, or close it? Were the images on the other side of the window clear or blurry, as if in fog?
Why do you dream about a window?
Aesop's Dream Book
In the human subconscious, a window is associated with an exit or the beginning of something.
In some cases, a window appears in a dream as a last chance or hope.
Window - the birth and death of a person are associated with this symbol.
A popular belief says that a bird hitting a window brings with it the death of the owner of the house. In the old days, when children had toothache, their parents warned them: “Don’t spit out the window - your teeth will hurt.”
A dream in which you are standing in front of an open window symbolizes change and the beginning of a new life period.
If in a dream you are trying to find a way out and see only a window, this is a sign that you have fewer and fewer chances to change the situation.
To dream of a bird knocking on the window is a sign of unexpected news.
Seeing yourself standing at someone else's window means unexpected financial expenses due to the treachery of your imaginary friend, whose goal is to bring you to complete ruin. As they say: “You will stand under my window.”
A window with broken glass symbolizes spiritual anguish, illness and disappointment.
Seeing a closed window in a dream is a sign that you will encounter an unexpected obstacle on your way.
A dream in which you wash dirty and dusty windows means that your hard work will bring you success and prosperity.
Seeing a silhouette in a window means that something mysterious or enigmatic will happen to you in real life.
If you are trying to climb into the house through a window, in reality you will spend your time fun and carefree.
Talking to a loved one through a window in a dream is a sign that you will not be able to find mutual understanding with the person with whom all your feelings, hopes and thoughts are connected.
A dream in which you open a window in a window means hope for better times.
Why do you dream about a window?
Longo's Dream Interpretation
If in a dream you watched something from a window, in reality you value yourself too little, because of this your life becomes more and more gray and uninteresting. It is necessary to develop a sense of confidence in yourself and learn to appreciate yourself. If you neglect this advice, those around you, noticing your “spinelessness” and desire to “go into the shadows,” will begin to use these qualities of yours for their own, not always noble, purposes. As you understand, it will be difficult for you in this case.
If in a dream you washed a window, it means that you need to pay all possible attention to what your friends are doing. The dream probably warns of danger from some person, but it is difficult to determine who he is; you will have to limit yourself to this vague warning and try not to be too frank in the presence of friends; perhaps your Judas will be among them.
Jumping out the window - someone else’s point of view is completely unimportant to you; The only thing that matters is what you think. On the one hand, such an attitude towards yourself and towards life in general is very good, but on the other hand, aren’t you afraid of falling from the high pedestal you’ve erected with your own hands? This is worth thinking about, otherwise you will really get hurt, which will happen sooner or later. Be more attentive to other people's opinions, which, strange as it may seem to you, are not always wrong.
Trying to open a window in a dream for fresh air means you urgently need to get rid of the harmful influence that someone has on you. Perhaps you yourself have already felt that sometimes it is as if evil fate is interfering in your affairs; so many unexpected troubles happen to you. Your biofield should be dealt with by a specialist, a professional, but it is not always possible to communicate with a real magician. Then you can give your soul “first aid” by reading any conspiracy against the evil eye and damage.
Looking out the window from the street is a desire to better understand oneself or another.
A beautiful view outside the window is something good next to you, but separated by some obstacle.
A blank wall outside the window - loneliness and melancholy will overwhelm you.
The reality and meaning of dreams
Sleep from Sunday to MondayThe dream is associated with the dreamer’s state of mind, his fears and concerns. A pleasant dream promises resolution of problems, a frightening one promises the development of depression. Such dreams rarely come true. However, for people born on Monday, they are prophetic.
8 lunar dayThe images seen in a dream allow the dreamer to realize his current state of affairs and point to the right life guidelines. The semantic chain of such dreams is usually confusing. But with the right approach to decoding, you can understand where to direct your energies.
Waxing CrescentThe dream speaks of new turns of events that will soon occur. It indicates areas of life and issues that need to be addressed in the near future. Dreams on the waxing Moon are prophetic.
November 4The picture you see warns of troubles that may soon occur. Try to remember the key moments of the dream: they will indicate mistakes that you can prevent.